A Man’s Life (Part 4)

Sleeping Naked – The Pleasure and Experience

NOTE: This is Part 4 of the Keepin’ It…Real blog series, A Man’s Life. Click here to read Part 3, click here to read Part 2 and here to read Part 1.
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BM nude sleeping (8)In previous articles in this blog I’ve talked about my preference to sleep naked. That particular preference dates as far back as my childhood and would continue until present day. I sleep nude every chance I get unless:

  • I’m sick as a dog, shivering from fever
  • There is little to no heat in my home (which hasn’t happened yet)
  • I need to share a bed with someone –for non-sexual purposes, of course – and
    then in such instances, I’m wearing only my boxers
  • I’m sleeping over a relative or friend’s house – with a caveat:
    Note: Perhaps there is an etiquette issue here but my decision to sleep naked as a guest in the home of another person would often depend on who that person is – and how clean I think they keep their home!

If I’m traveling, I always sleep naked in the hotel/motel room where I’m staying.

No Pajamas/pyjamas!
(Nice to know fact: The word “pyjama” traces its etymological origin to the Persian word payjama, meaning ‘leg garment’.)
When I go to bed nude, I enjoy the feeling of my naked body against the softness of the sheets. I’ve always been of the mindset that a man was never meant to wear clothing in bed. Of course if he feels a chill he could loosely cover his body in a sheet and/or blanket. It’s simply what I do. In fall and winter I’m more comfortable_RobFather-X nude sleeping 2013 being nude under the cool sheets with a blanket and comforter, while in the spring and summer months, a simple sheet will sometimes do. Whether male or female, the pores of the human skin were meant to breathe freely and without restriction – at least at some point of the day. Fresh air to the bare skin is healthy, therapeutic, healing and relaxing! If one is a nudist and/or naturist, sleeping naked should come natural. However, it is not for everyone. Like freeballing or “going commando” (meaning, not wearing underwear), sleeping naked is a learned art, particularly if one has been used to wearing sleepwear most of his/her life.

I’ve always hated wearing pajamas aka pj’s to bed. Wearing those damn things simply made me feel uncomfortable lying in a bed under sheets or blankets or in a sleeping bag. I hate when the material folds or bunches up under my legs or would get wedged between my ass cheeks. Pajama tops often made me feel a physically restricted. If I had to sleep wearing pajamas, I always wore just the bottom half, leaving the top off to sleep in bare-chested. I recall someone many years ago telling me that my pajama discomfort might be due to the kind of clothing material against my skin. That’s a possibility but I doubt it. BM nude sleeping (9a)The only time I feel okay with having anything against my skin is when I’m cold – and then the material cannot be itchy or coarse otherwise I’m scratching myself all the time. I’ve owned a couple of pairs of silk-looking polyester pajamas in my teens but rarely wore them in bed. As a teen I often would take them off once I was in bed and slip them back on under the covers before getting up for the day since I didn’t want my mom, sister or younger brothers who might walk in my room finding out that I slept naked. As an adult and whenever I’d come home on leave while in the Navy, I didn’t give a fuck if anyone found out how I slept.

As far as I’m concerned, pajamas – or any sleepwear for that matter – are only good to wear to sit or walk around the house within the presence of parents, siblings, roommates and/or house guests who may be uncomfortable with nudity or who might have a problem with seeing nude people (like me, for example) walking around the home as though nudity was such a natural thing. Ha-ha-ha!

Today, I own a few pairs of plaid My night shirt & PJ pantspattern sleepwear pajama bottoms but no matching top. The pajama bottoms – like my athletic sweat pants, are perfect for me as lazy/lying around comfort clothing but not for wearing in bed. I also own a plaid nightshirt which I rarely ever wear – but which is sexy as fuck to wear sometimes around the house in the winter. I take a special thrill in wearing the nightshirt – or in simply wearing a bath towel wrapped around my waist before or after a shower whenever a guest would make an unannounced visit after giving me only a few minutes to hour’s notice of their pending arrival. How inconsiderate! I’ve been known to often answer my door dressed in this manner to apartment maintenance staff who are notorious in arriving at a time other than that which I specified. I’ve also answered the door to postal and pizza delivery people in the same manner and most especially to those damn utility service people, who for some reason, always give that “expected arrival”, three to four hour time separation window of “between this hour and that hour“. I don’t like BM_in bath towelputting my personal time or life on hold like that. In my experience utility people are either too fuckin’ early or arrive later than that window specified! This causes me stress I don’t need or want. Fuck all those people!  Anyway, whenever any of the aforementioned people enter my home, I “conveniently forget” that I should get properly dressed; after all, it is my home they’re in and therefore, my rules of what’s “proper” and “considerate” apply. So long as they are not staying longer than thirty minutes – depending on what they have to do, I don’t feel any obligation to rush to put on a robe or get “properly” dressed. I’m sure my semi-nudity makes them feel uncomfortable but it also serves as a hinted motivator for them to take care of their business quickly and get the fuck out of my home.
Forgive me, reader; I digress
. I simply take the comfort and freedom of home nudity/semi-nudity and my sexual masculinity quite seriously and passionately. I’m just happy that I have never been one to accept the twisted social mindset of what some might consider “proper living” by having to think or feel that I must wear something – like clothing in my home let alone, sleepwear in my bed.

The Health Benefits of Sleeping Naked
Nudity and sleeping naked feels natural to me; it simply makes me feel more masculine and sexier! As noted earlier, the pores of my skin need to relax and breathe. That’s a healthy benefit to the body and there are a few more many more. For example, according BM_nude sleeper-1to medical research, sleeping nude helps the body to cool down. When the body is cool it releases fat-burning hormones that rebuild skin cells, bone cells, and muscle cells as you sleep. Sleeping naked also eases tension, which means it helps one to relax. A relaxed person will usually or always have and enjoy a better period of sleep. Medical research has also shown that sleeping naked is good for people who suffer from insomnia. So reader, if you’re clothed and you keep tossing and turning in bed, just get naked! After some hours of sleeping in the nude you should wake up fully refreshed, with a clear mind and feeling able to tackle almost any problem of the day. Give it a try!

Cleanliness of What You Sleep On
I’ve heard people say many disparaging things about sleeping naked. In discussions I have had with people on the subject some have express personal disgust while others felt perfectly fine with it. It often amazes me to know that there are people who have a problem with their roommate or house-guest sleeping naked. I don’t see what the big deal is with it. Some people have told me that they have issues or concerns with the cleanliness of people who sleep naked, expressing concerns over soiled bedding, for example. I still don’t see how that should be any concern, particularly if you are not sharing the bed with a nude sleeper – let alone one who hasn’t bathed or showered that day or who simply has poor hygiene habits. Still, if you are a naked sleeper, here are a few recommended tips which will help keep your bedding clean:

  1. Shower or bathe. Daily. I realize that for various reasons some people do not – or they choose not – to shower or bathe daily. That’sShower daily their business. However, I recommend doing it whenever possible or at the very least, a few times a week. And taking a shower before going to bed – particularly if you’ve worked all day in an environment where your body perspired heavily and/or got dirty, will reduce soiling the sheets, pillow cases and other bedding. You may also want to consider taking a shower if you have oily skin. If you have you have eczema or dry flaky skin (click here for info and treatment info) remember to apply moisturizer lotion after the shower. If you have trouble sleeping (whether nude or clothed) usually a warm shower will help.Try it! My routine is to shower every morning. I rarely need to shower again the same day or at night unless:
    • it’s been a very hot day
    • I simply feel like it
    • I’m about to have what I consider “fully nude” sex. Yes, you read that right. I insist on taking a warm, soapy shower before have fully nude sex with some person who is a casual sex hook-up or with whom I’m not in a committed relationship.
      SIDE NOTE: Fully nude sex used in this article, is simply when two people take off all their clothes and fuck. By using the term “fully nude” here, I simply want readers to get a better understanding of what I mean when I talk of having sex. People who have sex usually appreciate the fact that by removing all the clothing, sex becomes – and is – so much better between two (or more) people! I have ways of getting a casual sex partner to join me in the shower. This is very important to me for health and hygiene reasons. I do not want to have [fully nude] sex with any stranger whose hygiene habits are unknown to me. If that person refuses to shower (preferably with me) then any further sexual activity between us will stop. I will not negotiate this standard.
  2. Change or wash your bedding weekly. That would be sheets, pillow cases and anything which Purex 2 powder, Clorox 2 liquidyour nude body has come in full contact with. Always wash white or light-colored sheets in hot water. Wash colored sheets in warm or cold water but be sure to used non-chlorine/chlorine-free liquid or powdered bleach for colored clothing, like Purex 2 or Clorox 2.
  3. Protect your bed covering. Do not lie down on or sleep nude (or clothed) on top of any comforter, bed spread or blankets.Also, do not masturbate or have sex with a partner on top of this type of bed covering. Save all sexual activity for the sheets and pillow cases. Sheets & pillow cases are much easier and less-costly to wash and dry.
  4. Always (always!) change or wash the sheets and pillow cases after that casual hook-up (aka “sex guest”) has left your home. This isn’t necessary if you’re in a loving, loyal and committed relationship with someone but the tip given about weekly washing of the bedding still applies.
  5. Always (always!) change or wash the sheets and pillow cases after house guests particularly couples – who used your spare bed, sofa/sleeper sofa, sleeping bag, the blow-up mattress or the floor upon which the Loading sheets in washing-machinebedding was used – have completed their visit and left your home. Remember; not only do you not know what a house guest or couple did on that bedding (while everyone else was thought to be away or asleep), you also might not necessarily know that particular house guest’s hygiene habits!

It’s interesting how cleanliness of the bedding isn’t generally thought about by people whenever they go home with some person they just met and have casual sex. I’m sure many of us have been in the beds of several men and women whose standards of cleanliness didn’t exactly meet or even exceed our own. We should be aware that in the act of wild sex, our naked ass will likely rub all over the same sheets and pillow cases where possibly some other person had sex – days, if not mere hours or less before. (But try not to think about it, reader!) For obvious reasons related to sexual lusts and activity, we choose to take those risks whenever we’re in the home of someone else and in their bed. With this in mind – and with my particularly sense of hygiene, I always (always!) make it a point to take a long, warm, soapy shower – thoroughly scrubbing my body from head to toe after sleeping with a stranger – regardless of gender – before I put on any clean clothing or getting in my bed.

The Courtesy & Etiquette of Sleeping Naked
Hopefully, if you prefer to sleep naked you live alone or, if you have a roommate or housemates, you have your own room and/or sleep in your own bed – with the bonus of having mature-minded and understanding Nude sleeper_male (9)roommates or housemates. While it’s always good when you can sleep comfortably nude without having concerns about what your roommate or housemates might say (if they find out), try to remember what I said earlier: some people have issues with the preference of someone sleeping naked. Those particular people simply aren’t kool with it. Strange or weird as it may seem, there are indeed people who take issue with knowing that they have to share the same house, room or sleeping area with one, two or more people who sleep wearing nothing on their body under the covers – or who sleep nude on top of the covers or sheets of their own bed; even if that naked sleeper has a room of his/her own or, in the case of being a roommate, that nude sleeper’s bed is many feet away from that of the non-nude sleeper!

Nude sleeper-with roommateIf you have your own room and pay rent or – if your own the house in which you rent out rooms, there isn’t much the other housemates can say about your particular sleeping habits. Still, if you have a concern or know that others in the house might feel uncomfortable sleeping in the same house, room or sleeping area as you, perhaps you might want to let everyone know – simply as a courtesy; never out of obligation – that should they ever walk near your bed or into your room – without knocking, there is a high probability of them seeing half, if not all, of your naked ass lying peacefully asleep or perhaps awake in bed watching TV or using your computer to Facebook or whatever. If someone asks why you are naked or why you prefer to sleep naked or even why you “feel the need” to be or sleep naked, you can let them know that it is strictly for your personal comfort and that you hope they won’t take issue with or be offended by it. (But so fuckin’ what if they are BM_nude -How I watch TVoffended!) Chances are, many of the fellas with whom you share a house, room or sleeping area won’t give a shit about you sleeping naked. However, it’s been my experience that sometimes there is always that one, sexually insecure or perhaps ultra-religious person who has to be the fuckin’ exception. There is always at least one. That person will make his (or her) knowledge of your sleeping naked more of big deal that it is or ever has to be. That person will express some silly concern about your being nude in bed as being “too sexual”, “gay”, “nasty”, “indecent” or even more absurd, “immoral”. My advice for dealing with people like that is to never yield or succumb to that person’s bullshit; certainly do not ever let him intimidate you into Nude sleeper_male (11a)putting on your shorts or pajamas just to appeal to his peace of mind. Do not ever waste your time arguing with him about your sleeping comfort and habits. You do not need his permission – or that of anyone else, to sleep naked. You can remind that…asshole – and other dissenters of your personal comfort choices, of their option (if there be any) to leave the house, room or sleeping area and go sleep elsewhere. Better yet, the “offended” or the “feeling uncomfortable” person(s) can move the fuck out! Can you tell that I’ve had a few personal experiences with this sort of thing? Fuck the dumb shit!

Sleep with me!
I don’t know about you, but I think sleeping nude next to someone who is also nude is not only sexy but sensual. To have your body – your skin, touch that of another warm person is simply – in a word – wonderful! Outside of coitus, I find nothing better than to be able to hug or embrace from behind, the nude body of person lying next to me. My dick will get hard – which happens to me with nude sleeper-couple 2prolonged close contact with another person, but that’s part of the fun! I’m sure this happens with other men too. To wake up and see peacefully sleeping, the nude body of someone with whom I’ve had great sex hours before – especially if I have deep affection or love for that person, makes me want to touch, embrace and make love to that person and his or her body once again. What a way to start a morning!
Gay couple sleeping
Medical research has found that skin-to-skin contact releases the hormone oxytocin, a powerful hormone known to promote sexual arousal and feelings of bonding. Whenever we hug or kiss a loved one, our oxytocin levels are increased. This hormone also helps reduces stress hormones, lowers the heart rate and raise overall sex drive. With close skin contact with someone, erotic sexual desire is induced thus promoting a nice flow of this very useful hormone. Self-confidence, mental and physical alertness is enhanced by sleeping naked alone, yes, but it is most especially felt and noticed after sleeping with someone else who is nude.

Advice for New Naked Sleepers –

  1. If you are new to sleeping naked, just relax and take it a step at a time. I suggest you try sleeping shirtless the first night. Most men already sleep this way so this point probably didn’t need to be mentioned. However, there are women who read this blog and follow this blog series so some, or most of my tips are also for them! So yes ladies; take off the bra or t-shirt and let those “twin girls” hang free! Keep in mind that men generally do not like to sleep with a woman who wears a bra to bed.
  2. The second night, I suggest leaving the pajamas in the drawer or closet and just try sleeping in your underwear (if you wear any) or a pair of boxers or loose-fitting shorts, since they allow from more air flow to your cock and balls (with women – to the vaginal area) and that entire area leading up to and in between your ass cheeks. Again, many men already sleep this way but this tip is also given for the female readers as well.
  3. As each night passes, sleep soldier nude sleepingwith less clothing until you eventually take off your t-shirt, boxers or briefs and are completely nude when it’s time to go to bed.
    Again; men, your balls – and that entire groin region and the space between your buttocks need to breathe! (Women: your vagina – and that entire groin region and the space between your buttocks need to breathe! Side Note for women: If you are on the “monthly” I strongly advise against sleeping naked for obvious reasons. Sleep in panties or pajamas until the menstrual cycle is complete, then you can get back to sleeping nude.) Remove the clothing restriction and let it happen!
  4. Do you wear socks to bed? Take them off! Feet and toes need to breathe too!
  5. If the living situation isn’t favorable for you to sleep naked, then simply sleep in a pair of shorts or underwear (if wearing any). Just make sure your draws are decent in appearance; that means they are not torn and/or covered in holes and there is no obvious sign of odor, urine, cum or shit stains.
  6. Always keep a robe, a pair of shorts or full set of clothes nearby in case you have to leave the room to use the bathroom or leave the room/house in an emergency.
  7. If you are camping out or at a friend’s house and are sleeping in a sleeping bag but want to sleep naked,BM nude sleeping (2) take off your pajamas or underwear while you are in the bag and keep them in the bag. Few people can tell that you are naked below your belly in a sleeping bag. In the morning, you can easily slip on the pajama bottom or underwear without attracting any attention. It’s what I used to do and it works!
  8. Finally, if you don’t know your housemates or house guests well enough or you have trust issues with sleeping naked in your room when they are around, just lock your room door before going to bed. Leave a note on the door or tell the housemates/guests that if they want your attention, they should knock hard on the door or call you by cell phone.

In Conclusion…
Sleeping naked is nothing new in the world._I heart sleeping naked (4) For millions of years, people have been doing it! Like nudity, sleeping naked should not be a big deal and there’s nothing about nudity or sleeping nude that’s indecent, immoral or nasty.Still Dreaming About Last Night (2pic) Sleeping naked is not about sex – unless of course, you – and/or your roommate(s) want it to be…as in a decision between the two (or three or more) of you to have a mutual masturbation session (aka “circle jerk”). Speaking from personal experience, that’s not something that’s unlikely. Situations like that can – and do happen when men – regardless of sexual orientation, with like mind, decide they want to party nude, enjoy beer and hard alcohol and jerk off together to pornography. There’s nothing wrong with a good circle jerk party among friends. At least afterwards, everyone will rest or sleep quite comfortably! Man! It’s been years since I was last involved in a party like that!

_Reblog if You Sleep NakedIf you are already a man who sleeps naked, you are – and have been doing, your mind and your body a huge favor! You are also already aware of most of the things written in this article or perhaps you’ve learned something new. Pass it along!

If you are not already sleeping naked, I’d like to suggest that you give it a try – at least a few times. Simply lay aside any inhibitions you have, take off your clothes, your underwear (if wearing any) and just climb into that nice soft bed, completely confident and…naked.
Sleep well.

Keepin’ It…REAL!
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The Freedom of Nudity (Part 2 of 2)

[Read The Freedom of Nudity (Part 1 of 2) here]

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RobFather-XDoing Things While Nude, is Relaxing –
With my love for nudity being so natural, there are often certain things which I enjoy doing while nude.  If you’ve assumed that I was probably naked as I wrote this article you’d be correct! I often write a number of my articles in the nude, especially when I feel warm or it happens to be warm outside.  I do not however, always write in the nude but I’ve found that often my mental creative abilities – as well as my writing skills, are both significantly enhanced and improved during moments of nudity. In fact, much of that mental creativity happens when I’m in the shower!  Some of past roommates or friends thought the reason I often took so long taking a shower was because I was masturbating. I’d get teased because sometimes it was true – since a few have walked in on me doing that. Other times however, I was actually brainstorming!  I’ve written most of my academic term papers in the nude and received high marks on every term paper and report.  Whether I’m shaving at the bathroom sink, taking a shit, bathing in the shower, watching TV or just lying in bed reading or chatting online – nudity has always relaxed me and cleared my mind of clutter and bullshit stresses. If you see me repeat that in this article it’s only because words cannot describe the comfort and psychological freedom nudity brings me.

While I always enjoy being nude, I do not always have to be nude. There is a big difference. When I’m home (or if away in a hotel room) I occasionally watch television, work on my computer, house clean, eat meals and do certain other things of a general nature – all while nude.  I have fantasies of answering my door in the nude, which would be a turn-on since I would love to see the person’s face when I do it, especially if it’s some delivery or apartment maintenance calling unexpectedly. I’m sure I’m not the only person ever to have, or at the very most, lived out such a fantasy!  The closest to nudity I’ve ever answered my door is with a bath towel half-wrapped around my waist.  I’ll settle for that being close to realizing my fantasy for the time being.  Like many men, I prefer to watch porn in the nude, though I know of only a few guys who watch it fully clothed, which only makes sense to me if you were at work or the library; not at home or a close friend’s house. Other things I like to do nude is have an “all nude day”, especially in the very warm to hot days of summer.  If I have to work or go out that day, the moment I get home, off comes the clothing – as I mentioned earlier.  I might wear nothing but boxers or sweat pants (without underwear) but it isn’t long before I’ve pulled that particular clothing off too – just to be… naked.  I often go on Facebook, chat on-line, talk on the phone with friends – all while naked.  Oddly, I rarely do any business or talk to certain relatives over the phone while in nude – unless by chance, such calls occur when I’m already in the nude.  I’m sure some might think it weird or indecent of me but I’m not going to bother with putting on a robe or a pair of shorts just because a certain person happens to call me. Fuck that!  I’ve had to take some necessary and important phone calls while in the middle of a masturbation session – which some would consider to be worse than being nude.  Speaking of sexual pleasure and “decency”:  I have the same casual attitude about people who might walk in my home (which hasn’t happened) or in my bedroom (which has happened… a few times) without knocking.  Chances are the intruding person will see my naked brown ass… and nice-looking cock – in its soft or hard state of being. Check it: I am not one of those people who’d quickly cover up and run to the door to close it. I won’t attempt to hide my nudity. I also will not holler at the person for walking in on me. If I’m masturbating alone or happened to be “sexing” someone, depending on my groove, I might tell the person to either close the door (which they should already know to do out of respect for the privacy of both me and my sex partner) or, depending on the intruder, I might invite him or her to come in, take off their clothes and join me/us.  Yeah, I’m freaky like that! My sexual experience has allowed me to grow in that area and become what sex adviser columnist Dan Savage coins as being “GGG” – good, giving, and game.  I just don’t see why I should let anyone ruin my sexual pleasure – or cause me to lose a good boner – when what I’d be doing sexually is perfectly natural….and legal. The older I get, the less inhibited – or freakier (within good reason) I become!

I mentioned that nudity relaxes me…and it does indeed!  It helps relieve the stresses of the day. It gives me a clear and focused mind. I’m able to rationalize various things; make clear decisions, better develop and write about things on my mind, as well as plan certain things in my life. Nudity helps me sleep well, particularly after I’ve had sex or masturbated.  Later, I’ll write an article about the relationship between sleep and masturbation.

Nudity in the Navy: Homoerotic –
Now an erotic flashback about nudity, homoeroticism and male-bonding in the Navy. When I was in the Navy, I knew quite a few guys (I’m sure there were women too) – both in the barracks on shore and onboard ship who enjoyed nudity, freeballing and sleeping in the nude as much as I. For instance, in every barracks I lived in and on every ship to which I was assigned I knew quite a few guys who slept nude.  It was just a natural thing to see some guys nude and others wearing underwear in their bunks. I remember always being happy to learn that I wasn’t the only one who had no qualms with sleeping nude around other guys. On one of the ships where I was assigned, it was mere coincidence that there were three of us assigned to one tier of bunks – each who just happened to be a nude sleeper. You can imagine what mornings were like – specifically those moments when one of us might see the morning hard-on of one of the other bunkmates.  We often joked about that situation. To make living in that tier of bunks even more relaxing was the fact that neither of us had any inhibitions about masturbation.  Nearly every dude – on ship or shore, had shared or exchanged fuck books (porn magazines) which was a clear indication that they also masturbated. In my case, sleeping in a tier of bunks with two other guys who jerked off (masturbated) as often as I did made it more convenient, especially for those missions or deployments that often lasted anywhere from two weeks to six or seven months!  On long deployments, other than the bunks, one might expect to see (or hear) someone “rubbing one out” (masturbating), either in the head (bathroom), in some auxiliary storage or machine room, or anywhere one would be less likely to get found or caught. When the urge hits a man to “beat off” (masturbate), he’s either going to ignore it or postpone it but at some point, he’s going to “handle his business” – unless of course, he’s got a willing sex partner on board!  I’d bet the ratio of nude sleepers increased on every deployment. I know it certainly did after guys went out and got shit-faced (drunk)! Admittedly, I’ve often let my love for nudity get the best of me under such circumstances – I Sleep Nakedas did a few others!  I recall one instance many years ago, during a visit in the Philippine Islands, where a buddy and I [often] got drunk in Olongapo City, located near Subic Bay. One night when we got back to the ship around 2 or 3 o’clock in the morning, we’d taken off our nasty, sweaty and puke-covered clothes, had a quick shower and started roughhousing in the berthing compartment along with a few other guys who’d also just returned. Imagine a scene where there are several butt-assed naked men running around snapping towels and whooping and hollering like little boys. While a couple of guys fell on their ass in the berthing compartment, I don’t think anyone got hurt, as one by one, we’d eventually retreat to our bunks. That’s just how it was back then; how some of us Sailors and Marines often relieved the stress of deployment – that is, those of  us who were good friends. It was typical male-bonding as we were having innocent fun: drinking and smoking, sometimes fucking the same whores, drinking some more and roughhousing. Damn, I miss those days!

I told that story to illustrate that contrary to some myth, nudity is not a big deal in the military, particularly in the Navy or in the Marine Corps. (I’ve served on ships which had a large complement of Marines.)  As with any environment where several members of the same gender congregate, often the aura of homoerotic (not necessarily homosexual) roughhouse play, feelings or related speech can and do occur. As described in my story, a typical ship’s male berthing compartment is one place where such activity can be found.  Other than those who sleep in the nude, one can find a few guys in the heads (bathrooms) brushing teeth, shaving, pissing or taking shit – all while in the nude – before hitting the showers.  Others would sit at tables wearing either bath towels, boxers or briefs, or nothing at all – while playing cards, chess or just bullshitting. There would always be guys joking about the “junk” on another guy or wrestling in their underwear between the racks of bunks or in the head (bathroom) snapping each other’s asses with wet towels and….well, you already get the idea. It can all be platonically homoerotic; something that is inevitable – these various forms of male bonding, that WILL and often DO happen! In such an environment, men will be… men! All that nudity – non-sexual as it was when I was in the Navy (and I’m sure still is) – would be any gay or bisexual person’s eye-candy, if not masturbatory fantasy!  Yet, these are factual, albeit small examples of homoeroticism in its least or basic form that occurs in the military.

Nudity helped me to relax during the twenty years I spent in the Navy. On the ship, after work, I’d take a shower and just hang out at my bunk or go sit in the berthing compartment lounge (with towel wrapped around my waist) and chill until I was ready to get dressed to go out or stand some mandatory watch on the ship. On shore duty after work, when I got back to my barracks room, I’d strip down to my underwear or take everything off, unless I had a roommate – in which case, I’d just strip down to my boxers or change into a pair of swimmers shorts. Of course nudity was not an issue when I lived off base. Nudity was especially useful in the Navy in helping me to think of ways to resolve certain discipline issues I’d been having with a few of the men (and women) under my supervision. Aside from masturbation, being nude has helped relieve stress and encouraged me to later confront my bosses when I thought they were being thoughtless assholes to me or to my men. The Navy:  what an adventure – in more ways than I dare to talk about! *snickers*

Nudity: Sometimes It’s About Male Bonding –
Nudity is – and can be – sexually enticing (depending on the mindset of the person). However, the act itself often has little to do with sex or suggests that something necessarily sexual is going to happen simply because one is nude or likes to be nude. Again, it often depends on the mindset of the person.  I realize all the talk about nudity – particularly in the Navy may “seem gay” to some readers.  In an all-male environment, as I  said earlier, I believe most men have a natural inclination to be nude, whether it’s in the military, sports or just out camping with the fellas. What is the point of hiding or being ashamed or embarrassed with what every other man has as a sex organ?  Why be hesitant to discuss what most of men do with their cocks and what we might likely experience and talk about on a male-related but not necessarily deeply sexual level? For example, I’m not ashamed to admit that I masturbate. While masturbation is an intimate sexual activity – one which is often done in private, I don’t believe it should be some shameful or “deeply sexual” activity – not when nearly everyone does it – or has done it. I said “often done in private” because many men have – or do – masturbate in the company of other men while watching pornography (sometimes referred to as “mutual masturbation” among other names).  I certainly have! I stopped lying about masturbating in my early to mid-teens, roughly around the same time when other guys my age were freely talking about sex and/or masturbation.  Many men hold deeply intimate, sexually explicit conversations about what one does or likes to do sexually with another person.  Such conversations, the experience of solo and/or mutual masturbation and other forms of sexual experimentation are all rites of passage and a form of male bonding for many sexually interested and active males.  It often can be difficult to hide or disguise simple, innocent and platonic homoerotic activity in a consistently all-male environment.  My attitude therefore, is to not give a fuck about what others think or how they might perceive certain male-bonding situations.

A Simple Form of Physical, Sensual and Masculine Freedom
So there it is readers; finally this article, which was aching in my soul for months to be written, is complete… with a pinch of sexiness! I’ve told the world of my shameless love for nudity.  It is not a perversion or some unique fetish – although I do have a fetish or two.  As far as I’m concerned, nudity is simply a form of physical, sensual and masculine freedom.  It is a part of my masculinity and my particular alpha male characteristic. I believe my love of nudity, being nude and appreciating, if not acknowledging the physical nude beauty of others, is one of the sexiest, most sensual and erotic things about me. Anyone, not related to me by blood, who hopes to be a roommate or in a committed, long-term relationship with me, will have to accept that mindset.  I am indeed, a nudist and am very happy and proud to be one! I’m perfectly kool with nudity, my sexuality and sexual experiences… and I’m kool with sharing them here.

[Read The Freedom of Nudity (Part 1 of 2) here]

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The Freedom of Nudity (Part 1 of 2)

I’ve been entertaining thoughts of writing an article on the subject of nudity – and my personal enjoyment of it – for months!  Before I begin, please note a few things: First, this article is about MY personal enjoyment of nudity and why I enjoy it. I do not speak for others. Second, this article contains content which some readers may consider “TMI” or “too much information”. Where this blog is concerned, there is no such thing as “too much information”. Whatever is written here is obviously something I feel comfortable sharing. Finally, pictures in this article are here merely to illustrate certain points of nudity. Other than picture(s) of me, the other identified male model chosen in this article (Parts 1 and 2) was provided by and is of my Facebook friend, Robert ‘ForbiddenLight’ Michael. I invite you to go check out Forbidden Light’s blog here. Other pictures were chosen randomly from the internet and I take no credit for them.  If you are offended by seeing nude/partially nude men – or their genitalia, then please stop reading now. *******************************************************************************
Nudity:  Appearance Reflects Self-Confidence –Like many men, I enjoy being nude. It’s that simple and I’ll happily explain why. You see, I think nudity – and wanting to be nude – is quite natural. I believe many men have a natural inclination to be nude. We were all born nude and will all be nude at some point nearly every day of our lives. Of course I cannot write an article about nudity without addressing some facts about my appearance and gender characteristics. You’ll learn about those as the article unfolds.

BM nude, squatI am quite comfortable with being able to look at my reflection in the mirror on a daily basis and not feel any shame.  I’m not saying that I have the “perfect-looking” physique – because I don’t – but it is my body and I try to do what I can to take care of it. Care of my body includes trying to eat the right foods (and limited amount of sweets), not drink too much alcohol, get plenty of rest and exercise and manage stressful situations. To know me is to know that I shit, shower and shave – in that order – daily, and that on my own, I shave my head, manicure, pedicure and perform other foot and skin care, all on my own. I’ve always been interested in and have taught myself good grooming skills. I’ve improved and practiced such skills since my early teens because I’ve always cared about my looks and appearance. It wasn’t about vanity; it was more about me being a shy kid and having siblings whose good looks my parents, relatives and friends seem to fuss over. Rarely was I ever called “handsome” or “good-looking” so psychologically, I took that to mean that I wasn’t and ever since have worked on grooming, dress and, at one-time, be heavily involved in physical Robert 'Forbidden Light' Michael (3)fitness. I remember sometimes being called “nature boy” because I was always running and jumping, wrestling and putting my body thorough various physical stresses. I’ve never understood why someone always has to make some slick comment about a guy who takes care of his appearance. There’s nothing wrong with a man wanting to look good.  I believe I speak for other men who believe as I do, that looking good means feeling good and feeling good always exudes self-confidence – and often works wonders for a man’s attitude!

Since retiring from the Navy, I admit to becoming a bit lazy in areas regarding physical fitness but to look at me, it isn’t obvious – that is, if photos of me are any indicator. I have what some might call, an “average-looking” physique for a man my age but I’d be the first to admit that my body could afford to lose a few pounds, some body fat and a little toning up. I’d like to get back into doing that very much but I need to find and make time to get back into the same physical fitness regimen once regularly followed in the Navy. Friends, who normally see me clothed, have told me that I “look good”. People with whom I’ve had sex, and of course my health care doctor, who has seen me nude, each has told me that I look good. In fact, their words alternate between “looking good”reasonably healthy” and “fine”.

The “Bear”, the “Alpha Male” Characteristic, personal concern –
Some people would describe my physique as being “stocky” or “thick” but never once have I ever been described as or called “fat”. Others have said that in gay culture, I would be considered a “bear” due to my thick body frame, naturally hairy body, facial hair, bald head and the alpha-male /hyper-masculine characteristics I display. I’ve been called a “bear” for years – by gay and bisexual friends and women who playfully like to refer to me as a “bear of a man”. I stand at 6’0 ft, and weigh a little over than 215lbs. However, psychologically I’ve never considered myself big or tall. Being called a “bear” is a label – and I hate labels – but the term does have certain masculine and sexual connotations, which as a highly sexual person, is something I cannot ignore or deny.  I’m flattered whenever someone –male or female, calls me a “bear” or calls me their “big ol’ teddy bear”, with the latter being a bit much – considering that teddy bears are supposed to have a gentle nature. While I can be gentle, patient and kool with almost anyone, I have more of the characteristics of my astrological sign Taurus than that of some teddy bear!

People have said to me, “Rob, you reek of sexiness” or they have used words to that effect. That’s a very flattering comment, particularly when it comes from both women and men. Personally, I don’t see it and I’m not exactly sure what that means. Perhaps that’s a good thing. I just know that like most people, I enjoy sex very much. I enjoy talking about sex and nearly all things sexual. I can often find something sexual in just about everything I see, hear and sometimes touch. I suppose that such are the sexual abilities or traits of an alpha male – a man who has no inhibitions about his sexuality and one who is quite comfortable in and with his sexuality; a man who is able to have frank discussions of sex and sexuality and, in most cases chooses those with whom he desires to have sex. I’ll let you read between the lines. I also suppose that makes me a person who is innately and sexually in-tune with his surroundings and the creatures that inhabit it. I freely admit to being such a creature and am not ashamed of it. I know there are those who have speculations of my sexuality or sexual orientation. That’s fine because I can’t help such speculations and I’m at the point in my life where I no longer care. Alpha males do not care much – if anything at all – of what others think of them.  As such, rarely do I acknowledge such speculations – unless specifically asked, nor do I subscribe to or believe in labels. I am always going to be… and do… me and whatever pleases me.

I’m not consciously aware of when my essence is sexual. I suppose that would explain why I occasionally get intimately suggestive notes, phone texts and inbox messages from people I meet or with whom I often communicate on Twitter or my Facebook page. Some of those people are very creative in expressing their attractions to me. Again, it’s extremely flattering and such comments tend to make me blush. Then there are persons who make comments that are directly propositional – meaning, the author is offering sexual favors or is interested in getting me to share very intimate details of what I like and like to do sexually. I find such direct questions and comments rude and disrespectful. I make it a point to never discuss sex on a personal level with persons I don’t know or haven’t known for some time. Still, over the past few years I’ve known of – or have met people who have been – and who are currently watching, listening, and reading what I write here or on Facebook or Twitter, often without me being aware. I’m not used to such…attention. It was because of such undue attention that made me reconsider time and again the decision to write this article about my pleasures of nudity. Truthfully, I’ve kept delaying publishing it/posting this article out of concern that I might be attracting more attention than I’m prepared to handle. For months I’d been conflicted on what to do but, since you’re reading this, you know that I’ve decided to cast such concerns aside and see what, if any, reaction is going to be. Again, welcome to the mind and realism that is RobFather-X!

Nudity: An Expression of Personal Freedom, Sexiness –
By my perception and definition, the desire and enjoyment of being nude is simply an expression – or more specifically, my expression of personal physical freedom and sexiness. Nudity can be sexy and can be an expression of sexiness but it does not imply or mean that one will act or do anything sexual simply by lack of wearing clothing or the removal of some or all clothing. In my case, there are moments when I do not want to wear certain things like shoes and socks or a shirt. There are times when I want to remove any clothing considered restrictive or uncomfortable on my skin or body. Often that means removing everything from it. This doesn’t mean that I hate wearing clothing – quite the contrary! It simply means that I have moments when I’d rather not wear any clothing. I’m sure there’s some fancy medical term for people like me. I’m a person one who takes every available opportunity to wear as little as possible. The opportunities often range from feeling as if I’m wearing less-restrictive clothing – e.g., flip-flops, shorts, tank-tops/sleeveless t-shirt and freeballing (to “freeball” is to not wear under garments like briefs or boxers – or for women, panties), to wearing absolutely nothing at all whenever I can – especially if the feeling to be clothing-free occurs to me. For example, I don’t like having my cock and balls restricted; which is why I often freeball when wearing jeans, dark-colored khakis or summer shorts. Sometimes I might wear a dress-style jockstrap to keep my schlong in place. When I decide to wear undergarments – or as a matter of social decency because I’m attending some business or formal function, my underwear of choice is boxer shorts. Over the years of my life, I’ve owned and worn briefs, bikini briefs and boxer briefs. I still own a few pairs of boxer-briefs but rarely wear them as they, like the briefs worn decades ago, can become uncomfortable. As I write this, I’m recalling past conversations with my brethren who say they cannot freeball without getting hard (having an erection). I understand that completely. Freeballing does take some getting used to before it becomes second nature to the point when you’ve “trained” your dick to behave itself. Perhaps someday I’ll write a short article on how a guy can get used to freeballing. It just might prove useful! Other examples of nude freedom would be: sleeping nude, spending a day being semi or completely nude (usually after my shower) or shedding my shoes and socks at work or in the car (or bus), if I’m to be on the road for long distance trips lasting a few hours or more. Of course, I have enough sense – and decency to know when and where to take off certain clothing so don’t worry about me showing at some grocery or convenience store wearing a trench coat and flip-flops.

Love of Nudity: Started At Young Age –
I cannot recall when I first felt clothing to be restrictive but I do remember that in my pre-teens, whenever I would go to bed, I’d often sneak and take off my pajamas or briefs the moment I was under the covers – and when I thought my [first foster] mother was no longer going to check in on me. I was around age 9 or 10, (around the same time when I began masturbating).  I remember how comfortable I felt being naked under the covers. I’m sure my mother knew what I was doing, as I recall the occasional comments she made about how I’d always kicked off the covers when I slept.  Yet she never once scolded me for those nights when I “caught” me nude-sleeping. What a kool lady!

When it comes to one being nude it does not nor should it matter if a person is skinny, fat or just “average-looking” (like me).  People who enjoy nudity come in all shapes and sizes.  If you feel comfortable being naked, go for it! This is why nude beaches and naturalist colonies are so popular. Such places however, are only for people who appreciate the beauty of the human body – with all its flaws. It is for those people who enjoy the freedom and comforts of nudity and who are able to respect others being nude.  Mind you, such places require a certain degree of decorum which must be observed at all times. That’s not to say horny people shouldn’t participate in naturist colonies or gatherings – by all means, please do! Just be… kool! I suggest going to such places with Black couple, nudesexually mature, adult people; those persons whom you know will conduct themselves sensibly and with respect. By the way fellas:  getting a boner on a nude beach is perfectly natural (and may even serve as a compliment to some people) and occasionally is seen – even on public beaches. Don’t worry about it! After awhile, you’ll lose the boner anyway as your mind would soon be focused on simply relaxing and enjoying the warm sun and the sound of the waves hitting the beach.  Again, just be… kool – and respect yourself and others. Before long, going to nude beaches will no big deal since your dick will know not to rise to attention at the sight of other nude bodies.

[Article continues with The Freedom of Nudity (Part 2 of 2) here.]

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