Carolyn Franklin: Someone You May Not Know

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NOTE: The article here inspired me to write the article you are about to read.

I had long known of Aretha Franklin’s younger sister Carolyn Franklin (May 13, 1944 – April 25, 1988). Carolyn herself was a singer and a songwriter and had both written for and sang backup on several of older sister Aretha’s songs. What I did not know was that Carolyn was very likely “family” (a LGBT code word meaning that one is gay or self-identifies as being of a non-heterosexual orientation in the LGBT+ community). Read this article link and this article link then continue reading my article. Perhaps you’ll see why the information about Carolyn has significance.

You see, this article about Carolyn Franklin was posted on Facebook shortly after Aretha Franklin’s death on August 16, 2018. Along with the countless number of postings on multiple social media networks that were made about Aretha, there were several naysayers on those networks who felt that talking about Aretha’s late sister Carolyn – and making particular mention of her sexual orientation – especially so soon after Aretha’s death, was inappropriate and insensitive. Unlike some of the people on social media who had negatively commented on the article, I saw nothing wrong with the article author writing and sharing that tidbit of information about Carolyn Franklin nor with that author making mention of her non-heterosexual orientation. It’s simply something I’m sure many people did not know and perhaps would appreciate knowing. Still, regardless of any appreciation factor, why hide the alleged fact that Carolyn was or may have been lesbian? While Carolyn Franklin possibly being lesbian is not now nor should it ever be an issue in and of itself, that information either does or may have particular significance for those of us who are not only fans of the late Aretha Franklin but who also happened to be either non-heterosexual or heterosexual allies of the LGBT+ community; we who realize the sad yet unfortunate fact that we live in a country and a world where there are still many people who have bigoted and senselessly personal, socially negative and/or religiously negative attitudes against people who are non-heterosexual and/or about non-heterosexuality itself.

A person’s sexuality should never be the main or primary focus of who a person is, although it is an important if not significant part of who that person is. (I hope that makes sense.) In many ways, a person’s sexuality can often help develop, perhaps even help define a person’s character and personality. In short, I feel that a person’s sexuality/sexual orientation should no more be hidden or suppressed, nor should it ever be mocked or made shameful than any other aspect of a person’s nature and humanity.

I believe that had Carolyn Franklin lived during the last twenty to thirty years, she may have been a LGBT rights activist or spokesperson for LGBT civil rights causes and struggles for acceptance, equality, and of course, respect. Perhaps she was or had wanted to be such a person but, as of this writing, I am not aware of nor can I confirm that sort of information. Still, Carolyn’s alleged feelings for women are either expressed or implied in some of the songs she wrote. I also believe her older sister Aretha had openly respected and supported her gay sister whom she loved, just as she (Aretha) was known to have openly loved, supported, and treated with respect many other people – some of them famous like herself, regardless of their non-heterosexual orientation.

In summary, the article I’m discussing is simply about Carolyn Franklin, a deceased younger sibling of the late Aretha Franklin. Carolyn Franklin was someone who was important in Aretha’s life; a person who had made a name for herself as a song writer and recording artist, and who had contributed to Aretha’s fame, as well as to music history itself. Any biographical revelations about Carolyn Franklin should no more be ignored nor rejected from public awareness than the biographical histories of her sisters Aretha and Erma and their father, the late Reverend C.L. Franklin.

I disagree with those persons who choose or have chosen to take the article in negative form and/or who perceive it as being some kind of post-death ugly attack on Aretha Franklin’s fame and contributions to society, if not perhaps upon the late Aretha Franklin herself. It simply isn’t like that at all in my view. Anyone who knows and respects anything about Aretha’s family roots and life history would not read more into the article than what it is.

Click here to see and hear more biographical information on Carolyn Franklin and her sisters Aretha and Erma, in the Soul Facts video (on YouTube) or watch it below.

– RobFather


TRANSITIONS: Aretha Franklin

Aretha Franklin was born Aretha Louise Franklin on March 25, 1942 in Memphis, Tennessee. She grew up in Detroit Michigan. Aretha was known world-wide as the undisputed “Queen of Soul”. After a long battle with pancreatic cancer, Aretha Franklin transitioned Thursday, August 16, 2018, in her Detroit, Michigan home. She was 76.

Although Aretha and I have never met, my entire life was filled with listening to both her gospel and her secular music. As such, I came to love her voice, her singing style, and of course, her music.

Aretha Franklin-1 (RFX- edit)Aretha Franklin was indeed an icon, a legend, a musical genius, and a musical goddess, if you will. She was also a humanitarian – real person in terms of her character, her down-to-earth attitude, and her common touch with her community. Although Aretha will sorely and surely be missed by me and by millions of people the world over, her legacy will live on.

I am grateful and thankful for Aretha Franklin and for her countless yet selfless contributions to the entertainment and music industries, most especially to the [U.S.] Civil Rights movement, and to human society overall. I love you.

– RobFather


Aretha Franklin and the Reality of Life

Many people – and supposedly even Aretha Franklin herself, are/have been asking for prayers for her reportedly gravely ill health. The fact is, prayers do not work and will not work to change her situation. There is zero evidence of prayers ever being answered on the supernatural or so-called “divine” level. Only the science of medicine, Aretha’s physical ability to heal, and her own will power to live can ever have a hope of improved health. It is, has always been, and will always be the same as anyone else in any ill or poor health situation.

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As much as I may love and respect Aretha Franklin and much of her work, I only understand and can accept one fact that’s based on the reality of life: when it’s Aretha’s time to transition (i.e., die) it will simply happen. While some readers may consider my words to be “cruel and insensitive” (which isn’t at all my intent), it doesn’t change the truth of the matter; one which awaits us all someday.

– RobFather X

Crazed Without Your Morning Coffee?

*Sigh* I realize this video clip – while seemingly misogynistic, is humor. Of course it is. Still, it gives me cause to express a few things that came to mind while watching this somewhat-funny video clip.

You see, out of the few females to whom I am related (e.g., my foster mothers, sisters, nieces and cousins) and out all of the females whom I either lived with, dated, had for fuck-buddies or the one to whom I was once married, none were morning coffee drinkers – at least they weren’t around me. That worked well for me because I am not a coffee drinker and very much abhor the odor of scented brown water cooking in the morning. Thus, I’ve never met any female (or any male, for that matter) who acted like the woman in the video; persons who for years I’ve been calling “crazy mandatory morning coffee drinking muthafuckas”. Now, as far as the early menstrual cycle days of those females so mentioned is concerned, I think this video holds a great deal of humorous truth. *chuckles*

BTW: I don’t hate people who drink coffee. However, many of them who “simply need” or who “have to have” their morning coffee each day “just to get their day started”, tend to get on my goddamn nerves with their “I gotta have my morning coffee or my day… along with that of everyone else, will be fucked if I don’t!” childish rants, behavior and attitude. Yes, I said it; and I’m not apologizing if anyone reading this article happens to take offense. Consider that I have probably held my attitude against those “crazy mandatory morning coffee drinking muthafuckas” a lot longer than some of those [who have chosen to take offense] have been drinking it! I certainly am not going to change it now.

– RobFather X


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Does Bisexuality Exist?

I’ve never claimed to be a subject-matter expert on many things. I don’t yet have a masters or doctors degree or specific certifications covering some of the subjects I blog about. Like many bloggers, I write my blog posts coming from my viewpoint, much of which is supported by college education, documented factual information, general life, military and civilian experiences, and my social interactions with people from all over the world and from all walks of life. Whenever you read this blog, I trust you’ll consider this about me and about the things you read as you would any blog. It just makes good sense for you to do that.

Now that the disclaimer is out-of-the-way….

Over the years, I’ve been in debates, classroom discussions, face-to-face arguments, and submitted enough online comments on a few blogs and web forums regarding the existence of bisexuality. I’ve argued on the side of the affirmative because I believe that it does. The question of its existence often gets asked and personally, I simply don’t see why some people have a problem with it. After nearly 10 years of active debate and argument on this one issue, I’m beginning to grow a bit weary of hearing the same rhetoric and baseless arguments which people in both the straight and surprisingly, the LGBT communities like to present. So here’s my final position on the issue, with the hope that I won’t have to revisit it again. My mind is firmly set and I’ll always maintain this position.

Before I begin, first this fact needs to be noted: People are who they are; with each person having his or her own unique, if not often strange, attractions and desires, sexual or otherwise. I say, let people be who they are and fuck the damn labels!

A Legitimate, Sexual and Emotional Identity
Bisexuality isn’t a myth. Bisexuality is a legitimate sexual and emotional identity. Being bisexual is not the same as some straight or gay person being “bi-curious”, which entails persons who choose to sexually experiment with someone of their opposite or same gender “for the moment”, or because a situation presents itself which would allow two or more people to fuck whomever they’re with… as in the case of a threesome or group sex/sex party. I call such people “situational bisexuals” because their behavior gives TRUE bisexuality a bad name.  Bisexuality is much deeper than so-called bi-curiosity or situational bisexuality because as with heterosexuality and homosexuality, there are real emotional attractions and feelings involved.

In recent years, doctors, psychiatrists and researchers had found undisputed evidence of the existence of bisexuality. Their findings have been reported and posted in medical journals, newspapers, and online media across the globe. If you want to read more pros (and cons) regarding bisexuality, all you need do is conduct an online search as there are many websites devoted to the topic of bisexuality.

Attraction and Desire
Attraction and desire are not synonymous terms. We all see things we find attractive or which we may be attracted to, yet don’t necessarily want or need. The object of attraction is simply appealing to the eye. We all see things we desire. Desire, unlike attraction, implies want and sometimes need. Attraction usually enhances the desire of what we want. The two complement each other however. In some cases, having a desire for something does not always mean one is attracted to it. For example, one may want or have a desire for an object but not be attracted to it; he/she simply desires to have it for the means or reason of just owning or using it for some purpose. The Facebook friends list is a perfect example of this kind of desire. There are hundreds of people who confirm “friend requests” all the time, yet are not in any way attracted to the person whose request they just approved. Some on Facebook like the idea of having more “friends” on their list than some of their own REAL-world relatives or friends who also use Facebook. Oddly, such people may feel that having such a large list gives them a sense of belonging or even power. In reality, there is no possible way one person is going to be attracted (I’m talking physically) to each of the hundreds of people on his/her friends list. Furthermore, it’s highly unlikely that a person with such a large friends list is ever going to personally meet them all.

The Bisexual Person
The bisexual person is aware that he/she is; that they exist as a bisexual person. As such, bisexual people know that they are or can be, attracted to members of both the male and female gender on an emotional, physical and sexual level in much the same way as any heterosexual or homosexual person. I cannot tell you how often I’ve heard some people, both straight and gay – say or have argued against the existence of bisexuality. They would say, “no one is bisexual”, or “bisexuality doesn’t really exist”, or “being bi is impossible”. Their arguments also maintain that anyone who claims to be bisexual must be confused about their sexuality and/or attractions; or such persons are lying or in denial about their true sexual orientation”. I recall one person on a blog recently commenting that people are either “bisexual gay” or “bisexual straight”, whatever the fuck that’s supposed to mean.

So here’s the REAL deal: bisexuals are NOT “confused” about their sexual identity or sexual orientation. Neither is a bisexual person “lying” or “in denial” about who he or she is, or what they like or are attracted to sexually. Also, I’ve argued time and again, that the frequency in which a bisexual person has such physical attractions and desires and even sex with either gender, is irrelevant. A bisexual person is guided by his or her emotional and physical attractions and desires in much the same way any heterosexual or homosexual person is attracted to someone, except in the case of the bisexual person, such an attraction may fall on either male or female, not just one specific gender.

The bisexual person falls under a separate sexual DNA orientation. Bisexuals are neither completely heterosexual nor completely homosexual. They are living examples of the gray areas or fluidity that exists in sexuality. Straight and gay people need to stop trying to reject or ignore the existence of bisexuality. They also need to stop placing bisexual people under the same label and sexual orientation umbrellas as themselves, simply to assuage their own limited understanding of bisexuality.

NOTE: Contrary to the “equally heterosexual/equally homosexual” rating/level noted Kinsey scale-1on the Kinsey Scale, factually, most (if not all) bisexual people do not base their sexual attractions and emotions on a level that clear and cut. Although there is some closeness to an even or equal attraction to both genders, most bisexual people lean more towards being straight than gay while others lean more towards being gay than straight.

Hypocrisy: How Quickly Some in the LGBT Community Forget
Frankly, I find it appalling, if not downright hypocritical, for any gay person to declare with so-called certainty and based only on their closed-minded “expert opinions”, that there is no one who is truly bisexual. How quickly some in the LGBT community seem to forget that for generations (long before the majority of people reading this were born), that there were many people, including some medical doctors, psychiatrists and religious leaders who years ago (as some do now), challenged the very existence of homosexuality. They said, “Homosexuality is considered to be a choice and a lifestyle by some people”, adding that: “it is simply unnatural for anyone to be a homosexual, for it opposes the grand design of God and Nature”. They also said they don’t believe anyone can be born gay or can have same-sex attractions and desires. There are people today who still believe as their forefathers and who continue to promote and preach that everyone is born heterosexual…”just as God intended”.

Now you can understand that whenever I hear someone, particularly a gay person, express doubts and objections to the existence of bisexuality, I have to take a stand, as I know well the history of bigotry in this country and throughout the world. I’m willing to give the same argument of similar historical fact regarding the beliefs about homosexuality when it comes to defending the existence of bisexuality.

It’s Not Your Sexuality; How Could You Ever Understand?
People who are not bisexual would not understand the attractions and desires or the thought processes, emotions and feelings of a bisexual person any more than those who are heterosexual could ever understand those of a homosexual. No one is an expert on the sexuality of another person, particularly since sexuality, human or otherwise is – as stated before – fluid…on so many levels!

With this argument, and history on my side, need I say more about the existence of bisexuality? I said it earlier but it bears repeating: People are who they are; with each person having his or her own unique, if not often strange, attractions and desires, sexual or otherwise. Let people be who they are and fuck the damn labels!

Keepin’ It…REAL!