Sexual Discretion

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Always live in your truth! Have fun and enjoy your one life! Human sexuality is fluid. It’s natural and is meant to be that way! Do whatever you do sexually with good sense, personal care and safety, with the proper, well-understood consent of potential partners and, when necessary, with a measure of discretion.
And rememberYou are an adult. There’s never a need to tell anyone (or everyone) about who or what kind of things you’re into or might be willing to experiment and/or get into on the sexual level. That kind of information should only remain between you and your selected (and hopefully trusted) partner(s).

– RobFather X
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TRANSITIONS: George Michael

George Michael – English singer, songwriter and record producer transitioned on Sunday, December 25, 2016.george-michael-faces-robfathers-edit

George Michael was born Georgios Kyriacos Panayiotou on June 25, 1963 in East Finchley, north London, UK.

george-michael-andrew-ridgeley-of-whamKnown professionally as ‘George Michael’, Michael rose to fame with his school friend Andrew Ridgeley in the 1980s after forming in 1981 one half of the pop music duo Wham! (The duo/group was briefly known as Wham! UK in the United States due to a naming conflict with an American band.) Wham! would enjoy success until their breakup in 1986.

Michael was best known in the 1980s and 1990s with his style of post-disco dance-pop and had been characterized as a blue-eyed soul singer before going solo. Much of his material however drew more from middle-of-the-road pop than it did from R&B/soul music.

george-michael_faith-1987The release of George Michael’s multi-million selling solo albums, Faith (1987), the follow-up Listen Without Prejudice Vol. 1 (1990) and Older (1996) were – and remain  three of my often-played personal favorites from his solo efforts. As a solo artist, Michael sang music duets with such great R&B/soul music recording artists like Aretha Franklin (“I Knew You Were Waiting (for Me)”), [the late] Whitney Houston (“If I Told You That) and sang with fellow English singer-songwriter, musician and composer Sir Elton John in a 1991 live concert performance covering John’s popular 1974 hit Don’t Let The Sun Go Down on Me. Additionally, Michael contributed background vocals to David Cassidy’s 1985 hit The Last Kiss”, as well as to Elton John’s 1985 successes Nikita and Wrap Her Up.

Michael sang on the original anti-famine charity super-group Band Aids 1984 recording of Do They Know It’s Christmas? – which became a UK Christmas number one single. He donated the profits from Wham! songs Last Christmas and Everything She Wantsto charity.

george-michael_listen-without-prejudice-vol_1-1990George Michael sold more than 100 million record albums worldwide throughout a career spanning almost four decades. He would win numerous music awards throughout his 35-year career, including three Brit Awards – winning Best British Male twice, four MTV Video Music Awards, four Ivor Novello Awards, three American Music Awards and two Grammy Awards from eight nominations. He garnered seven number one singles in the UK and eight number one hits on the Billboard Hot 100 in the US. In 2008, Billboard Magazine ranked Michael the 40th most successful artist on the Billboard Hot 100 Top All Time Artists list.

As of this writing, many qualified news sources have reported – and Michael’s publicist has stated, that singer George Michael died peacefully at his home property in Goring, Oxfordshire, England, Sunday afternoon on December 25, 2016. He was 53.

Thank you, George Michael for sharing your wonderful talents and for your great contributions to the music industry. Rest in peace, my good man. We’ll greatly miss you but your music and contributions to society shall live on.

(Note: Excerpts of this transition bio were adapted from various sources.)

– RobFather X

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Orlando Massacre Victims at 49, not 50

I’m still seeing postings from social media users who are saying that fifty (50) men and women were killed in last Sunday’s massacre at the Pulse nightclub in Orlando, Florida. Perhaps it’s insignificant but I think details and facts – no matter how minute, are important in situations like this.

Unless any one of the other 53+ people who were wounded or injured in that incident happen to die from their wounds – and I certainly hope each of them survive and has a healthy recovery – although reports say there are a few in that number who remain on the hospital critical condition watch list, the official death count of human victims in that massacre is still at forty-nine (49), not 50!
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The FBI and other law enforcement agencies do not consider the perpetrator or antagonist killed in any crime a victim in their death count. This is why they [the FBI] do not – and neither should we – consider Orlando assassin and domestic terrorist Omar Mateen, a victim in that incident. I say this so that in our social media postings and social discussions we can correctly state the true number of people killed in that massacre.

Now, click here  or click the photo above to link to an interactive website slide of the still photo from the New York Daily News. The slide shows the name, photo and profile of each of the persons who were murdered Sunday June 12, 2016. Lest there being any misunderstanding, the photo and slide show photos of people; human beings of flesh and blood who, regardless of their sexual orientation, had been living members of our society. They were people who had simply been having a good time; enjoying the American freedom of having a good time with friends, acquaintances and strangers… until their lives were suddenly snatch away needlessly and tragically by… a bullet.

– RobFather X

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‘National Coming Out Day’ Message

NCOD_Should never need this day (Robz Edit)Today, October 11, many of us observe the annual National Coming Out Day (NCOD). Here’s a happy National Coming Out Day to everyone who revealed, plan to reveal or intend to soon reveal their non-heterosexual orientation (aka “coming out”) to people in their lives. It’s always been my hope that one day the world will never need to have or observe such a day for non-heterosexual people; that all people will simply be respected for being who their are and [to borrow and modify a phrase from the late civil rights leader, Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.] that people will be judged by the content of their character and never, ever by their ethnicity or their sexual orientation.

Each year that National Coming Out Day is observed, I remind people who are not “out” with their sexuality [to family members, friends and acquaintances] that they are never under any obligation to reveal their sexual orientation (aka “come out”) on this particular day nor make some major announcement to that affect. I think a person should only reveal his/her non-heterosexuality to those whom he/she knows, can trust, can feel safe with and safe being around. I advise all to follow their instinct when making such an important decision. Each person must carefully consider the pros and cons which such a revelation might have on his/her life and particular livelihood. This especially applies to young teens or young adults who still live at home with parents or guardians who are non-supportive/non-accepting of LGBT people, especially if those parents or guardians provide housing and/or financial support. Do not base a decision to “come out” on what you heard or learned happened to someone else when that person “came out”. There are many good ‘coming out’ stories but are also many bad ‘coming out’ stories! You can watch and listen to a number of them on YouTube. I further advise to never let any person, organization, social media network (i.e. Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, et al) or public message (and that includes any LGBT organization public message) try to guilt, push or pull you out of “the closet”. There’s nothing wrong with keeping your sexual orientation a secret or made known only to a few selected persons if you so choose. You have your reasons for doing that; just make sure they are good reasons.

Happy-National-Coming-Out-Day-2I can’t argue that in many instances it’s sometimes better (often for many reasons), if people know your sexuality orientation. Sadly though, that is the world we live in because for various reasons, some people just like knowing something sexual about someone else. Being out with your non-heterosexuality means never having to live in misery or shame. It means never having to sneak around and/or hide what you say or do or with whom. It means never having to explain where you go (or came from), who you date or with whom you simply hang around. It means you’re much freer to be the ‘you’ that you were always meant to be. You’ll find that some people won’t give a fuck about your sexuality (a good thing) while others will do all they can to try to change you or to convince you of how “immoral” you are and how “sinful” and/or “disgusting” your life is if it is anything but heterosexual (a bad thing).

Depending on where you live and where you work, public knowledge of your non-heterosexual orientation to certain people or to everyone at your place of employment may affect your job position and/or overall employment with that company. That’s why I warned earlier to be discreet and take care to whom you reveal your sexual orientation. People at your place of employment do not need to know nor do they have to know such personal information about you. No one at the job has a right to ask you about it. Logically, one’s sexual orientation should have no impact on one’s occupation…unless of course, that occupation is working as an actor or producer in the porn industry. Unfortunately, there are people who feel otherwise. Yes, the haters of non-heterosexual conformity are still out there, folks. Live your life, live in your truth but use good judgment. Be with and around people who make you happy. Trust, discretion and use of positive logic and good sense in what you tell/reveal to people are important where this is concerned.
TRUTH & LGBTFinally, contrary to what some people say, one can indeed be “out” sexually and still live a happy and sexually discreet life. I do it as a bisexual man and am still doing it. I’m living in my truth on a discreet level for reasons which are my own. Lots of people are doing the same thing because frankly, there’s never any need or purpose to wear one’s sexual orientation as a sticky label or neon sign on the forehead or arm. There’s a huge difference in one being “in the closet” and one being sexually discreet.
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Anyway…you’ll know when it’s time for you to tell certain people in your life – without any shame or with much hesitation that you’re not heterosexual or straight; that you’re gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, “sexually fluid” or perhaps wish to transgender to satisfy your life-long desire to become and to live your life as a man or woman.

Be you, baby! Happy National Coming Out Day.

(Click here to read my previous article on NCOD.)

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Are there ONLY 7 Ways to Have Safer Sex?

RE: This article: 7 Ways to Have Safer Sex | HIVPlusMag.com

My comment:
The article is informative. Sadly however, on the heels of National Black HIV/AIDS Awareness Day (which was Feb. 7th), every picture in it is that of a White man. There’s necessarily nothing wrong with that since the author and/or publisher of the article were free to choose whatever photos they wanted for the article. However, for any print or on-line magazine to feature an article discussing safe or “safer” sex to lack the inclusion of photos of men from other ethnicities does – in my opinion, National Black HIV-AIDS Awareness Day (Feb 7, 2015)further support why there must be a National Black HIV/AIDS Awareness Day each year. As noted in my previous article on NBHAAD, HIV/AIDS information and prevention knowledge is for everyone, regardless of ethnicity. That includes information/knowledge on how to have safe/safer sex.

Aside from the choices in photos, I can’t help but find it curious as to why the article’s author Tyler Curry, a gay man who is HIV-positive and a respected LGBT activist and columnist, failed to mention other forms of “safer sex” such as: masturbation/mutual condoms-1masturbation, frottage or “frot” (non-penetrative sex between sexual partners – male or female (aka “dry humping”) and of course, abstinence. Still, I’m posting the article link because Black men and other men of color can learn a thing or two from reading it. I – a HIV-negative person, certainly learned a few things – other than condom use, about which I already knew.

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