Being both Masculine and Alpha

_RFX, Renzo nude, goatee, armpit, pierced nippleThere are pockets in U.S. society which either want or would prefer that people look down on a guy who is masculine and/or who has an “alpha” type personality; as though being one or being both is supposed to be some negative, bad, and perhaps dangerous thing. Well, fuck people who either think like that or want to believe that sort of thing! It’s not my fault that such people can neither understand nor accept the kind of men (like me) who happened to be both.

Men like us will neither be guilted into nor shamed for being who we are. We will never feel obligated to somehow “tone down” our measure of masculinity, masculine demeanor, nor any “alpha-type” personality we may happened to have due to the sensitive and/or insecure nature or feelings of other people. Furthermore, I am only qualified to assess and take comfort in and with my own level or measure of masculinity and personality type. It’s never my place to assess and/or judge that of another man. I believe society would be better off if they’d simply follow my position on this.

I recently tweeted this:
RobFather Tweet (12APR2019)-3Among a host of other things I attribute to the “me” that I am, my self-confidence, both my psychological stability and sexual security and comfort, my leadership and managerial skills, my strength, patience, love, and concern as a father, how I choose or prefer to interact with other people, my management of stress and personal health, and my very ability to live, travel, and survive in this country and in the world itself, is all based simply and exactly to my being – and remaining – the kind of person that I am and have long been. I’m good with that! Any psychologically and/or emotionally insecure, fearful, and/or intimidated motherfucker who doesn’t like it will simply have to deal with it because the man that I am will not change for their benefit. 

– RobFather X

A Simple Message

Ballcap_Don't get killed 4 being BlackThe message on this ball cap is very simple. And in America, especially in recent years, it is perhaps both the upfront and deeply rooted feeling of many Black American men and women.
May your travels to and from your home today and everyday be safe.

– RobFather X

TRANSITIONS: Dick Gregory

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Dick Gregory was an American civil rights activist and icon, social critic, author, entrepreneur, stand-up comedian, and actor. He was born Richard Claxton Gregory in St. Louis, Missouri on October 12, 1932. Gregory was 84 when he transitioned in Washington, D.C. of heart failure.
(Click The New York Times to read article.)

– RobFather X

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Acts of Patriotic Defiance

Yesterday, [August 14, 2017] protesters in Durham, North Carolina [U.S.] toppled a 100-year-old statue dedicated to the [then] Confederate States of America (commonly referred to as the Confederacy). Things like that shown in the video (which has gone viral on social media) will be happening by many brave people in other parts of the southern United States and in a number of public places in the U.S. where statues or monuments sit that represent, symbolize or give honor to ideas or advocates of racism, bigotry and other forms of hatred. Watch the video clip:

As an American citizen but more importantly as a person who detests all images, symbols and/or messages of social hatred and bigotry in my country (as well as those in other places around the world), I’m completely in support of legally (but safely) bringing down and having destroyed, any statue, sculpture, monument and/or building sitting on American pubic soil which represents, symbolizes, honors, advocates and/or sends a message of racial hatred and bigotry – or the history of that sort. Future generations of Americans can read about the record of racial hatred and bigotry in the United States; we don’t need to erect, keep or maintain physical monuments to it. Still, while watching the video clip showing a few brave American citizens toppling a statue that was dedicated to the then-Confederate States of America, I couldn’t help but chuckle (not mock, but simply chuckle) at the scene of those persons who did just a little more than that to the inanimate object. (Watch the video again.)

You see, I wouldn’t waste my saliva nor risk hurting or breaking my foot (nor any other body part) on a thing made of materials like metal, marble, plaster, cement or resin, et al; particularly not on a thing which never received life and attacked me. I understand the significance of one spitting on and kicking and hitting a statue. However, those particular acts neither mean anything much nor will they do any more damage than that which has already been done by bird droppings (aka feces or shit), the harsh heat of the sun, acid rain, and winter’s cold and ice during the statue’s existence.

Here’s the point of my message: When tearing down and/or destroying an object whose existence or presence either symbolizes, represents or honors a social and/or moral wrong – or the history of such wrong, I think one should perform those acts of sociopolitical defiance by using good mindful sense and by taking a personally safe and healthy approach. Few things in this world – such as statue and/or building vandalism or destruction, are ever worth hurting, seriously injuring or possibly killing oneself in the process. History rarely remembers martyrs of sociopolitical causes, especially none who haven’t been identified. And remember: the town or city where one has hurt/injured or killed him or herself while in the act of doing those patriotic things of defiance isn’t necessarily obligated to cover that person’s medical, funeral and burial or cremation expenses. Just a little something to think about.
Carry on, patriot!

– RobFather X

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TRANSITIONS: Kashif

Kashif (Kashif Saleem aka Michael Jones) – American multi-instrumentalist, singer, songwriter, record producer, artist, composer, author, director and educator – transitioned on Sunday, September 25, 2016.

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Kashif was born Michael Jones on December 26, 1959 in Harlem, New York and was raised in the Brooklyn foster care system. Under his given birth name Michael Jones, Kashif was a member of the music groups The Bus Boys and Artists United Against Apartheid, though he was/is best known for being with the 1970s American disco/funk band B.T. Express (originally named Brooklyn Transit Express). It was B.T. Express who recruited him at age 15 to be their keyboardist and vocalist. As Michael Jones, Kashif is credited with performing on B.T. Express song hits such as Express and Do It (‘Til You’re Satisfied), among others.

Michael Jones/Kashif initially launched his career as a multi-instrumentalist. Among other instruments, he played the piano, flute, trumpet, saxophone and tuba. Kashif left B.T. Express in 1978 to begin pursuing a solo career in music. It was either during or shortly before this time when he studied Islam and would change his name from Michael Jones to Kashif Saleem. [‘Kashif’ is an Arabic name meaning “discoverer” and “inventor” and ‘Saleem’ means “one who comes in peace”.] While solo, Kashif used his talents to play keyboards for R&B music artist Stephanie Mills before segueing into studio work on projects with other R&B artists like Nona Hendryx, Gloria Gaynor, Melba Moore, Tavares and The Four Tops, among many others.

Kashif, who had already crafted his own distinctive sound (a sound I would know anywhere), would sign with Arista Records in 1983 where he enjoyed success as a solo artist. His signature use of synthesizer technology paired with lyrics of love and devotion helped defined urban sounds following the exit of disco music. This helped him earned several awards, including two Grammy nominations for his second album, ‘Send Me Your Love’ (1984) – which has long been and remains a personally loved, often-played favorite of mine and another nomination for his 1985 album ‘Condition of the Heart’. Together with fellow musical genius and famed recording artist Stevie Wonder, Kashif is considered a R&B pioneer and synthesizer master in urban music thanks to his precise synthesizer technology approach and the introduction of MIDI (Musical Instrument Digital Interface) in his production work.

Kashif wrote and/or performed a number of successful songs for and/or with artists like Whitney Houston (‘Thinking About You’, ‘You Give Good Love’), Evelyn “Champagne” King (‘I’m In Love’, ‘Love Come Down’, ‘Betcha She Don’t Love You’, ‘Back to Love’), Howard Johnson (‘So Fine’), Meli’sa Morgan (‘Love Changes’), Stacy Lattisaw, Melba Moore, Average White Band, Jermaine Jackson, Janet Jackson, Barry White, Johnny Kemp, Mariah Carey, Dionne Warwick (‘Reservations for Two’), Al Jarreau, guitarist George Benson (‘Inside Love (So Personal)’), Will Downing, The Stylistics and others. Kashif is credited with launching the career of best-selling jazz saxophonist legend, Kenny G with whom he has written, played instruments and/or sang several songs. In addition to his work in music, Kashif is also a successful director and best-selling author of the book Everything You’d Better Know About The Record Industry.

As of this writing, reports say that Kashif apparently died of natural causes in his home in Venice, Los Angeles in California. However, the official cause of death has yet to be determined. Kashif Saleem was 56 years old.

Many of us remember Kashif and his music and are very grateful for the sharing of his talents and influence as well as the many musical and humanitarian contributions he has given to society.

REFERENCE NOTE: Excerpts of this transition biography were adapted or retrieved from various sources, including Soulwalking.co.uk (which, in my opinion, is usually a good “go-to” source of accurate information on R&B artists of color), Billboard.com, Vibe.com, IMDb.com and AllMusic.com, among others.

– RobFather X

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