I Don’t Like or Trust Iyanla Vanzant!

Iyanla Vanzant (Ronda Eva Harris) - RED XI’m sorry, but I simply cannot follow that Iyanla Vanzant (born Ronda Eva Harris) person on Facebook or on Twitter – where a request for me to follow her was made and thus prompted this article. I also question the thinking of some of the people who do follow or subscribe to her…”work”. If you are a follower of Vanzant then that questioning includes you, reader. It’s fine if you choose to follow that woman – for that is your business but you’ll get no apologies from me for writing this article.

While Vanzant’s “advice” may be good for some people, I simply do not like what I’ve seen and heard from her over the years on television and in other media sources. I do not like what she supposedly does or represents, and trust me: I’ve watched/heard more than I need to make this personal assessment – even if you don’t agree with it. I do not like Vanzant’s “know how” to “fix” someone else’s life/personal situation and I’m a bit wary of her motivational “advice”. My instinct tells me to not trust her as far as I can spit (which isn’t very far).

To each his/her own where she is concerned but never ask me to watch, listen, subscribe or follow that woman. I think I’d rather follow former U.S. president George W. Bush and that bigoted radio talk show host Rush Limbaugh first!

You are welcomed to learn who Iyanla Vanzant is and what she is about by clicking here.

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ADDENDUM:Iyanla Vanzant on Oprah I’ve long known of some of Iyanla Vanzant’s history since I first saw her on Oprah’s show many years ago – when she was a regular guest of her show. My mom loves the shit out of Oprah so her TV was always tuned to that show like clockwork every day at 4:00pm. I only know this from being home on leave when I was in the Navy. It was Oprah every goddamn weekday! God help the person watching TV in the Tucker household kitchen when my mom would walk in! She’d demand that we turn from whatever we were watching to Oprah’s show. My hatred of Oprah’s show only intensified from that bullshit! Anyway, that’s how I got to know of Vanzant being a show regular. If memory serves, Oprah and Vanzant had a falling out over the issue of Oprah and her people trying to help or trying to convinceOprah Winfrey, Dr Oz, Dr Phil Vanzant to host her own show on the Harpo Network but Vanzant did not respond in a manner suitable to Oprah and the Harpo network producers. As a result of that issue, Oprah cut the ties. When the dust settled, Vanzant would come back to Oprah’s show some years later and the hatchet or misunderstanding between them would be buried or cleared up. Now I understand that Oprah treats Vanzant like the greatest thing since sliced bread! I’m not privy to Vanzant’s supposed personal relationship with Oprah or that with Oprah’s other protegé, Dr. Phil McGraw of the Dr. Phil show.
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CHECK IT: I do not follow nor do I respect anyone willing to have or host so-called personal “help shows” on television or radio. Regardless of any disclaimers the network might post, I think television and radio “therapy” shows are demeaning to the person supposedly being “helped”. That’s why I hated Dr. Laura’s radio show (when it was on) and why I hate those doctor/medical shows, like Dr. Phil, Dr. Oz and the like. I have no respect for those hosts or for the people who are willing to put themselves and the personal business of their private lives before millions of judgmental viewers/listeners on such programs. I feel that if one is serious about getting help with a personal issue then damn it, they should go see a PRIVATE physician; not try to seek some fame by airing their shit for all to see! I have no sympathy for such people – regardless of what their issues are.//
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And now, this parody of Vanzant’s TV show, Fix My Life from one of my favorite comedians, Wanda Sykes!

Keepin’ It…REAL!

13 thoughts on “I Don’t Like or Trust Iyanla Vanzant!

  1. Hmmm…I was wondering for a long time if anyone else noticed her show was kind of “off” for some reason, and then I found this blog. Its not that I dislike her. Its just wjen I tried watching her show a few times, I never could watch the whole show. I felt she was too bossy, argumenative, and a know it all…idk. Someone I think I may not want to know personally. But unfortunate she went through so much.

  2. Me too.I have a gut feeling that she is manipulating people rather than helping.There is something off,negative and downright upsetting about her.Especially the episode where she tried to help dmx and ended up looking like a joke.Dmx saw the lies in her!

  3. Can someone please petition to take this woman off of tv. I just believe that Iyanla is a fraud & bully. I am watching her show now & there is something very “off” about the way she claims to help & heal.

  4. I agree wholeheartedly with everything that you said. I never watch any of those shows, but then again, I don’t watch a lot of tv period. I did, however, flip through the channels just a bit ago and lo and behold there she was……..Iyanla, professing to heal everyone’s life. Ugh! I thought to myself, hmmmm, let’s see what she is up to now. There was a family she was scolding and lovingly? Yelling at? and then tells the mother/wife of this family that she better find somewhere else to sleep tonight cuz it ain’t gonna be here with your family like you’ve done in the past. The husband and her two boys were roped tied together, not sure what that was about, but I am assuming something to do with feeling tied to the situation and feeling hurt and a prisoner of their own feelings, etc. etc. This woman is crying, Iyanla yelling, and the man with his 2 sons tied up. I turned the channel and logged on the internet asking Google……..Do others like Iyanla’s advice? and I found your site/blog. I personally think she goes way beyond her training, if any on certain situations, and I think I read somewhere that her own daughter has issues with her. So I am thinking, hmmmm, let’s sum this up real quick like, you have a woman here trying to fix your life, but yet and though, she can’t at times fix her own. Ok, world, I may be a bit naive but really?? I think I will stick to fixing my own life, hehe. Just my opinion is all.

    • Hey Julie! Thank you for visiting the blog, reading the article and sharing your opinion here! It’s all very much appreciated! And no, milady; you are NOT naive; you’re simply a person with good sense and intelligence to recognize the rights and the wrongs in this world. Iyanla Vanzant and her ilk is among the type of people who unfortunately and sadly, contributes to the wrongs of our society and this world.

  5. Vanzant is a very reckless person who has no professional training masquerading as a mental health professional., I am sure she does more harm than good because as a mental health professional she violates so many DON’Ts of standard mental health therapy that it’s not even funny. She is more like a FakeBullyTherapist.This is a more in depth bio than the wikipedia…. Please tell me where she is qualified to wreck peoples lives the way she does? And notice how she entered law school……. but they gloss over the conclusion. LOL ……. Going through abuse, being a teenage mother, trying to commit suicide, and getting beat up by your husband does not = qualified Mental health professional.

    Born in Brooklyn, New York in the back of a taxi cab to an alcoholic mother, Iyanla was a child of an extra martial affair. When Iyanla was two-years-old her mother succumb to breast cancer. This left Iyanla and her older brother to be raised by father, who left his children in the care of a series a relatives, including an uncle who raped her at the tender age of nine. Although Iyanla knew her father, he was often not present physically and emotionally unavailable. By age 16, she was a teenage mother. By age 21 she had three children and a physically abusive husband. 9 years, two suicide attempts and many beatings later, Iyanla and her three children made their early morning escape into an unknown future; a future where she would raise her three children alone. Being a single mother, she sustained her family for several years on public assistance. Iyanla was inspired by a sign on the bus to change her life by attending Medgar Evers College in Brooklyn, New York. Three years later she graduated Summa Cum Laude and entered the City University of New York Law School at Queens College. Her brilliant oratory skills caught the attention of the Philadelphia Public Defender’s office who offered her a job without a formal interview. Three years into her practice, Iyanla knew she had made the wrong choice for her life and left her position.

    Like everyone else, Iyanla readily admits that she too has had long periods of confusion. Unlike many, however, she uses her difficult times to usher her into a new state of being. After leaving her prominent position as an attorney, Iyanla eventually found herself unemployed, sleeping on a sofa in a friend’s basement with her pregnant 16 year-old daughter. A friend invited her to teach a class for women who were being trained to transition from welfare to work. Understanding their predicament very well, Iyanla took her new job seriously. She produced a workbook for the class. In 1988, that workbook became her first published work, Tapping The Power Within: A Path To Self Empowerment For Black Women. The 20th. Anniversary edition of this book was published in 2008. (Smiley Books/Hay House). Her second work, Acts of Faith: Daily Meditations For People of Color, crossed the racial divide to become a favorite companion for Tipper Gore, wife of then Vice President Al Gore. 13 publications and 5 New York Times Best Sellers were not a part of Iyanla’s plans. Then again, the best laid plan tend to go awry.

    Iyanla has received numerous awards and accolades for the power and impact of her work. She received She is hailed as one of Halle Berry’s five “Sheros” (Glamour Magazine 2006); one of the country’s most influential African Americans (Ebony Magazine 2004); among the country’s most 100 Influential Women (Women’s Day Magazine 2003); one of the “most dynamic speakers in the United States” (Emerge Magazine 2000). She is a woman of passion, clear vision and purpose.

    Dr. Vanzant travels globally delivering her teachings and message of hope to thousands. A much sought after guest for prime time radio shows, her voice is a staple on The Tom Joyner Morning Show (Radio One); The Tavis Smiley Show (NPR); The Michael Baisden Show (ABC); and Tell Me More with Michel Martin (NPR). She has appeared as a host Life Coach on the NBC Daytime Drama, Starting Over (2004-2006); Iyanla, her own daytime talk show (2001-2002) produced by Barbara Walters and Billy Getty. She was also a recurring guest on Oprah (1998-1999) as part of the Change Your Life Faculty.

    As Founder and Director of Inner Visions Institute of Spiritual Development, Iyanla shares her knowledge of Universal Principle and Law, Eastern and Western spiritual/religious traditions/teachings, and the truth of Unconditional Love to motivate others to create a better life, a better community and a better world! She spends most of her time now training Life Coaches and Ministers and conducting a series of community forums through Inner Visions.

  6. Vanzant is a very reckless person who has no professional training masquerading as a mental health professional., I am sure she does more harm than good because as a mental health professional she violates so many DON’Ts of standard mental health therapy that it’s not even funny. She is more like a FakeBullyTherapist.This is a more in depth bio than the wikipedia…. Please tell me where she is qualified to wreck peoples lives the way she does? And notice how she entered law school……. but they gloss over the conclusion. LOL ……. Going through abuse, being a teenage mother, trying to commit suicide, and getting beat up by your husband does not = qualified Mental health professional.

    Born in Brooklyn, New York in the back of a taxi cab to an alcoholic mother, Iyanla was a child of an extra martial affair. When Iyanla was two-years-old her mother succumb to breast cancer. This left Iyanla and her older brother to be raised by father, who left his children in the care of a series a relatives, including an uncle who raped her at the tender age of nine. Although Iyanla knew her father, he was often not present physically and emotionally unavailable. By age 16, she was a teenage mother. By age 21 she had three children and a physically abusive husband. 9 years, two suicide attempts and many beatings later, Iyanla and her three children made their early morning escape into an unknown future; a future where she would raise her three children alone. Being a single mother, she sustained her family for several years on public assistance. Iyanla was inspired by a sign on the bus to change her life by attending Medgar Evers College in Brooklyn, New York. Three years later she graduated Summa Cum Laude and entered the City University of New York Law School at Queens College. Her brilliant oratory skills caught the attention of the Philadelphia Public Defender’s office who offered her a job without a formal interview. Three years into her practice, Iyanla knew she had made the wrong choice for her life and left her position.

    Like everyone else, Iyanla readily admits that she too has had long periods of confusion. Unlike many, however, she uses her difficult times to usher her into a new state of being. After leaving her prominent position as an attorney, Iyanla eventually found herself unemployed, sleeping on a sofa in a friend’s basement with her pregnant 16 year-old daughter. A friend invited her to teach a class for women who were being trained to transition from welfare to work. Understanding their predicament very well, Iyanla took her new job seriously. She produced a workbook for the class. In 1988, that workbook became her first published work, Tapping The Power Within: A Path To Self Empowerment For Black Women. The 20th. Anniversary edition of this book was published in 2008. (Smiley Books/Hay House). Her second work, Acts of Faith: Daily Meditations For People of Color, crossed the racial divide to become a favorite companion for Tipper Gore, wife of then Vice President Al Gore. 13 publications and 5 New York Times Best Sellers were not a part of Iyanla’s plans. Then again, the best laid plan tend to go awry.

    Iyanla has received numerous awards and accolades for the power and impact of her work. She received She is hailed as one of Halle Berry’s five “Sheros” (Glamour Magazine 2006); one of the country’s most influential African Americans (Ebony Magazine 2004); among the country’s most 100 Influential Women (Women’s Day Magazine 2003); one of the “most dynamic speakers in the United States” (Emerge Magazine 2000). She is a woman of passion, clear vision and purpose.

    Dr. Vanzant travels globally delivering her teachings and message of hope to thousands. A much sought after guest for prime time radio shows, her voice is a staple on The Tom Joyner Morning Show (Radio One); The Tavis Smiley Show (NPR); The Michael Baisden Show (ABC); and Tell Me More with Michel Martin (NPR). She has appeared as a host Life Coach on the NBC Daytime Drama, Starting Over (2004-2006); Iyanla, her own daytime talk show (2001-2002) produced by Barbara Walters and Billy Getty. She was also a recurring guest on Oprah (1998-1999) as part of the Change Your Life Faculty.

    As Founder and Director of Inner Visions Institute of Spiritual Development, Iyanla shares her knowledge of Universal Principle and Law, Eastern and Western spiritual/religious traditions/teachings, and the truth of Unconditional Love to motivate others to create a better life, a better community and a better world! She spends most of her time now training Life Coaches and Ministers and conducting a series of community forums through Inner Visions.

  7. You know how much I love you, my naked brother! If possible, that affection has grown by leaps and bounds. I LOVE Wanda Sykes and her solution to the woes of our world! A big, all-embracing naked hug, Rob! 🙂

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