Is Something REALLY Wrong in This Picture?

*Another presentation in the KIR continuing series of articles of the Steppin’ On The Feet Jesus Washed (SOTFJW) Project-Mission!
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What fuckery is THIS??? Or IS it fuckery?
Is there something REALLY wrong in this picture? Look carefully!

I do not know this Bishop Larry Trotter. I saw this picture on Funnybook today. As I was drafting my response to comments made about the photo, I decided to post my words here instead of on FB (where I can use as many words as I want without any lazy readers bitching about my response being “too long”.)

ANYWAY…

I try NOT to be judgmental on certain things I see. My thinking is this: “If it looks like easy bait, chances are, it probably is.”  Chalk that up to my twenty years of military experience!  I studied this picture very carefully and studied it for a very long time. I asked myself, “Why would a grown-ass man, who is [supposedly] a “man of God” and who [supposedly] has some sense of morals, ever be seen in a bathtub with a child who appears to be between the ages of 4 and 8 (give or take a year or two)?”

First of all, let’s ignore the fact that this man is a religious man. That shouldn’t matter. This could be any upstanding innocent male relative doing a seemingly innocent thing.  With that in mind, I did not want to be one of those  people who jumped on the band wagon of judgement about someone I do not know.  I also did not want to be like so many others who assumed that this picture is morally wrong on a variety of  levels.  To know me is to know that I am an independent free-thinker.  Now yes readers, on the surface, the picture does indeed appear to be wrong. However in my experience, I’ve learned that many pictures can send different messages, especially if there is something that a person specifically wants to see or is looking to see in a picture.  I won’t even bother to talk about the wonders of Photoshop because I doubt this particular picture was edited or created as such.

So far, many people are assuming – and understandably so – that this man and child are NUDE in the tub/Jacuzzi.  If that is the case, then yes – as far as I’m concerned, such a setting and the picture itself, would be wrong due to the age and gender of the child.  I am a father so I clearly get it. However, at the risk of bringing down all hell from the one-tracked minds out there reading this post, I’d like to offer some alternative viewpoints;  a few which I have yet to see anyone mention. It’s simply a matter of plain detective work and of not jumping to unsubstantiated conclusions. (Remember what I said earlier about “easy bait”.) 
Consider the following:

  1. I would argue that since we, as viewers, were not in the room when and where this photo was taken, we don’t know if anything, in fact, was morally done wrong here.
  2. We do not know, with any certainty, that man and child are in fact, nude. The suggestion that both persons were or are naked (and bathing) was planted in our heads by the CAPTION of this Instagram photo! (Click here or click photo for the link.)
    (Ahhh… the power of suggestion:  if one is not careful, one can easily be drawn into its trap!)
  3. The soap suds hide the man’s lower region.  He could, in fact be wearing swim trunks. It also hides the chest-area region of the little girl who could, very possibly, be wearing a one-piece, strapless swimsuit. (They make those, you know.)
  4. The photographer, for all we know could have been the mother, father or some legal guardian of the child. The photographer could have been the daughter or son of the man in the tub /Jacuzzi, taking what she or he thought was a quick, innocent picture of cuteness with Granddad with his granddaughter.
  5. We have all, at one time or another, taken photos or movies that could appear ambiguous in nature or seem [criminally] compromising to others at first sight – until further explanation is given. (Although I fully acknowledge the fact that this picture being posted on Instagram or any public forum, was a BAD decision due to the PERCEPTION factor alone.) I’d argue that we do not have enough information from this picture alone to accuse or judge this man of any wrongdoing or, if we were on a jury, to convict him.

Check it: Let’s not immediately look for corruption where there could possibly be pure innocence!
(Geez; I should have been a lawyer or public defendant!)

Keepin’ It…REAL!

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ADDENDUM UPDATE No. 1: (as of 17 JANUARY 2013 01:03 AM)
From Facebook user Moore Reese, comes these words:

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Moore Reese Yeeeeeah, I think it might be the darkness and shame within us that calls forth the judgments. If we can not see ourselves innocent in this situation, we are definitely not going to “see” someone else’s possible innocence. 

Could it be an inappropriate situation? Yes. Could it be an innocent one? Yes. There simply isn’t enough information to judge. To say that a loving and honorable parent cannot have a naked moment with a child is to deny the existence of good people. To question a questionable situation is natural, given the many times we hear about sexual abuse, particularly of children. But to judge…without evidence or equal consideration of alternative possibilities is something else altogether…

 I will add, RobFather, this one point to your blog post points.

There are many cultural traditions that are not influenced by puritanical “sex is dirty” and “nudity sinful” ideologies. Naturists, which I do not know if this man is a participant, does include clergy and people from all stratum of society. Naturists are no more inclined to sexually abuse their children than any other member of society. Naturism includes a reverence and respect for nudity without sexualizing it.

I’m making this point simply to say that even if these two people are naked….nakedness does not suggest a foregone conclusion of “wrong”. It may be culturally alien to most of us, but that does not make it wrong, nor does it (nudity) mean that this man is any more guilty of abuse. The only thing that means someone is guilty of child abuse is child abuse. Taking a bath with a child is not illegal. It may be frowned upon by most of us because we have been conditioned to see it as a precursor to sexual abuse. We are afraid of being stimulated and we do not, or cannot, trust ourselves to be honorable in the face of nudity. Everyone isn’t like us. Some folk are honorable.

Was it ignorant of the pastor to post a picture like this and not expect to be judged? Absolutely!! Does putting himself, his family and this child in the line of fire make him wrong? No. If he molested this child, that makes him wrong. If he put the child in a sexually charged situation, that makes him wrong legally. Does this picture mean he did that? No. The sexual context is coming from the minds of the people who are sexualizing it. 

Does it merit investigation? I would suggest, yes. Why? Because if this pastors decision-making capability (assuming he posted the picture) is so faulty as to risk his reputation, his churches and the child’s, by posting the picture, then can he really be counted on to also hold the child in respect and honor while the child is nude and bathing with him? If he is a fool on one hand, how much integrity can we expect of him on the other?
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There you have it, readers! My point clearly made by Facebook user Moore Reese! Thank you Mr. Reese for pointing out and supporting my position on this issue AND for making some very clear and valid points which I too, had always known but neglected to point out in my original post writing. Now, let’s hope people get the message!

Again,
Keepin’ It…REAL!
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ADDENDUM UPDATE No. 2: (received 17 JANUARY 2013 at 12:15 PM)
Here is the YouTube video clip of Bishop Larry D. Trotter’s response to the controversial  picture shown above. On the John Hannah Morning Show, Bishop Trotter responds to the insinuations, outrage, and concerns raised by the viral picture of him and his four-year old granddaughter in the bathtub together in the bubble bath.

I TOLD you this was innocent! I told you all!
Once again,
Keepin’ It…REAL!

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SAO Archive: Remembering the Prince of Soul, Marvin Gaye

Marvin Pentz Gaye, Jr.
(April 2, 1939-April 1, 1984)

This is a  Special Edition of SATURDAY AFTERNOON AT THE OLDIES (SAO) w/The RobFather, which aired on Saturday, April 2, 2011. It would have been the 72nd birthday of the Motown Prince of Soul, the late MARVIN PENTZ GAYE, JR.
Included in this session are two interviews discussing the music of Marvin Gaye.  Enjoy!
Click here to read a brief biography of this great icon of music!

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Here is my playlist for “SATURDAY AFTERNOON AT THE OLDIES (SAO) w/The RobFather for music which aired SATURDAY, APRIL 2, 2011 on KISS 107.1 (WTLZ-FM in Saginaw, MI)! REMEMBER: you can always listen to the show LIVE each Saturday afternoon, 12pm to 3pm, on KISS 107.1 by going to www.kisswtlz.com; click on the “LISTEN LIVE” button, and ENJOY!
Click on the SAO Audio button on the right to listen to the recorded show – commercial free!

SHOW EDITIONA Special SAO Edition: “SAO observes the 72nd birthday of the late MARVIN GAYE.”

HOUR 1
1. MARVIN GAYE…..CAN I GET A WITNESS (63) 2:48
2. MARVIN GAYE…..I WANT YOU (76) 4:34
3. MARVIN GAYE…..INNER CITY BLUES (Make Me Wanna Holler) (71) 5:20
4. The O’JAYS…..GIVE THE PEOPLE WHAT THEY WANT (75) 4:13
5. MARVIN GAYE & TAMMI TERRELL…..YOU’RE ALL I NEED TO GET BY (68) 2:40
6. CHERYL LYNN…..ENCORE (84) 4:32
7. KOOL & The GANG…..FRESH (84) 3:51
8. MARVIN GAYE…..HERE MY DEAR (78) 2:49
MARVIN GAYE BIOGRAPHY:
[RobFather interviews musicologist and former Saginaw, MI resident, BRANDI WALKER (via phone from Nashville, TN)]
9. MARVIN GAYE…..GOT TO GIVE IT UP (77) 6:02
10. JOHNNY “Guitar” WATSON….A REAL MOTHER FOR YA (77) 4:57
11. MARVIN GAYE…..LET’S GET IT ON (73) 4:51

HOUR 2
1. MARVIN GAYE…..SANCTIFIED LADY (85) 5:23
2. PEBBLES…..MERCEDES BOY (88) 4:56
3. THE DEELE…..TWO OCCASIONS (87) 5:54
4. BILLY OCEAN…..LOVE ZONE (86) 5:35
5. MARVIN GAYE…..STUBBORN KIND OF FELLOW (63) 2:43
MARVIN GAYE BIOGRAPHY:
[RobFather interviews colleague KISS 107.1/WTLZ-FM radio personality, DANTE’ TOUSSAINT (in the KISS 107.1 studio)]
6. MARVIN GAYE…..SEXUAL HEALING (82) 4:02
7. MARVIN GAYE…..YOU SURE LOVE TO BALL (73) 4:44
8. R. KELLY…..BUMP ‘N’GRIND (93) 4:04

HOUR 3
1. MARVIN GAYE…..THE STAR-SPANGLED BANNER (83) 3:13
2. MARVIN GAYE…..A FUNKY SPACE REINCARNATION (78) 8:18
3. ARETHA FRANKLIN…..A DEEPER LOVE (94) 4:36
4. SHALAMAR…..THE SECOND TIME AROUND (79) 7:15
5. BILLY OCEAN…..NIGHTS (Feel Like Getting’ Down) (81) 4:42
6. SKYY…..CALL ME (81) 3:57
7. MARVIN GAYE[…..AFTER THE DANCE (76) 5:11
8. MARVIN GAYE…..DISTANT LOVER (73) 4:09
9. MARVIN GAYE & KIM WESTON…..IT TAKES TWO (66) 2:58
10. MARVIN GAYE…..WHAT’S GOING ON (71) 3:53
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RobFather’s SAO Playlist
©2011 RobFather-X! Productions. All rights reserved.
©2013 RobFather-X! Productions. All rights reserved.

When Someone Reaches Out (from the “Hardline” series)

PREFACE: Normally, I do not share excerpts from my Hardline series in a general blog post. I’d much prefer readers of this blog find my Hardline series pages under the Imprimus page [here] and, if interested, read the profound comments/statements/quips which I and others have said. However, in recent weeks I’ve been seeing certain comments on social forums like Facebook, reading postings on other blogs and in news reports of things which say to me that there are people reaching out for help; psychological and emotional help. This deeply concerns me, thus I was inspired to write this Hardline and share it here. Somebody out there needs this! Please heed the words and share this link. You could change or perhaps even save a life!
S/N: Click here to read other writings of The Hardline According to RobFather-X series.
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When Someone Reaches Out –
Reality is a strange bedfellow; it does not ever leave or escape us. At the start of any new year, many people have certain hopes, expectations, concerns and even fears about things they want to see happen or change in their lives. The complex challenges or problems of life we had on the last day of the previous year did not instantly disappear at the start of the new year. Oh, if that were so!

Depressed man sitting-1Alcohol, drugs, sex, partying and other forms of revelry only helps us to forget such problems for a short time. We still carry the weight of our problems into the new year; some of it much too heavy to continue trying to carry alone. We find that we might need help and naturally want to reach out to share our burdens and concerns with someone else. Mind you however, the help offered by others is not always enough to give through mere text message exchanges, phone calls or the giving of kind, albeit meaningful comments of support on social forums like Facebook. One cannot feel the full spirit or essence of pain or anguish of another person through such means, no matter how many words are written or spoken.

Humans, by nature, are empathic creatures. Each of us has an innate need to have the physical presence of another person occupying the same room or area to feel comforted, liked, loved and/or and reassured as to who we are and what we are feeling. Depressed woman-2We’d much rather look into the eyes of another person whenever we feel the need to bare our soul – sharing our most intimate thoughts, feelings, and desires. We feel the need to read the body language of another person to see if what we are saying is being received with genuine concern and with the utmost sincerity of what human friendship and/or companionship is about. Often seeing a smile, feeling a touch or having a warm, firm physical embrace is all that is needed to help make us feel that our very existence is indeed worthwhile. It helps to know that someone else can understand, care and gives a damn about us and/or our given situation. Failing some of that, it is still helpful if the person to whom we are talking can relate to our particular circumstances in some way. It says to us, “You aren’t the only one; you aren’t alone.” It says to us that someone cares about what we Depressed man sitting-3may be thinking of ourselves and, in some instances, may help us do away with any ideas of pursuing some potentially dangerous course of action to alleviate the pain being felt.

Think about this when someone you know – be it friend or distant family member, has had or is having struggles with life and they ask you to come visit them – or if they ask if they can come visit you. Your response (or lack thereof) could make all the difference, not just in the life of that person but perhaps in yours, too!

(Retrieved from The Hardline According to RobFather-X (series) 2013 written/posted by GER-201301:08)

Keepin’ It...REAL!

FUCKstration (defined)

I received a private Funnybook message this morning asking me to explain what “fuckstration” was. I had to laugh! I had used that word in a Funnybook status post last year….er… yesterday. I just made it up (since I LOVE the word “fuck” in all its connotations!).  Feel free to use “fuckstration” if you must! It was so easy to create that certainly somebody somewhere must have also come up with the word!
I’m sure everyone reading knows what frustration means but to be clear, here is Merriam-Webster’s Dictionary definition:

Frustration (noun)

  1. a deep chronic sense or state of insecurity and dissatisfaction arising from unresolved problems or unfulfilled needs.
  2. to balk or defeat in an endeavor or induce feelings of discouragement
  3. to aggravate or bother; to frustrate

Examples of frustration:

  • These bureaucratic delays have been causing us a lot of frustration.
  • These delays have proven to be a major frustration

Now, here’s my definition of “fuckstration”:
Fuckstration (noun)

  1. Same basic meaning as the word frustration but on a much deeper, heavier level!
  2. A sense of irritability, exasperation or suffering in some way from the action or inaction of others, to the point where one has good reason to punch the person(s) causing the fuckstration in the face.
  3. A feeling of being ignored, neglected or used without sufficient reward or reason;  i.e.“raked over the coals”, or “fucked over” (so to speak).
  4. A sense of neglected sexual gratification.  Horny. Libido overdrive.  To be “sexually fuckstrated or “sexually bankrupt”.
  5. To fuckstrate.

Examples of fuckstration:

  • It fuckstrates me to know that Congress will still get a paycheck in this fiscal crisis but unemployed job-seeking Americans won’t.
  • Last night’s New Years parties took care of a lot of sexually fuckstrated people.
  • The amount of homework the professor gives is causing me severe mental fuckstration!

When ‘frustration’ is too light weight a word to describe how you’re really feeling about a situation, try using ‘fuckstration’. You’ll feel a little better!

Expect to see me use it here more often!

Keepin’ It...REAL!