It’s been over a year since I’ve written anything related to the topic of personal nudity. Well, let me correct that: I did in fact write an article on nude sleeping a while back but that article was just about the pleasant and healthy beneficial aspects of sleeping naked! Not to dismiss nude sleeping but generally when I speak about living life as a nudist, I’m talking about being up and about in one’s home, yard, hotel room or better yet, outside in nature … being completely clothes-free for the most or some great part of your day. I’ll talk a little more about that as this article unfolds! Also, this September will mark a year since I affirmed (not “came out”) in this blog what many readers either already knew or had suspected: that not only am I a proud nudist and naturist but also bisexual. I’ll explain why that was important to mention later. Keep reading.
Now please note: the things you read in this articles and in the embedded links to other articles are unapologetic and shameless in nature. They are a mere fraction of who I, RobFather-X, am as a person. While I am reasonably and sensibly discreet when necessary, I have no fear or hesitation in ever holding candid discussions with open-minded people who genuinely want to learn and understand more about the man I am nor do I harbor feelings of awkwardness or shame in discussing certain aspects regarding nudism, sexuality or my sexual orientation. Before continuing on, read more about me in the recent biographical blog article titled, At 54, I’m Confident. Class. Sexy. Kool!
As a Black man in America the issues of nudism and sexuality are two of many such subjects that are important to me, especially considering that there are many in my particular ethnicity that are either reluctant or ashamed to openly discuss such topics – let alone want to hear of masculine Black men such as myself expressing themselves so openly and honestly. There are many in my ethnicity that deny or do not subscribe to the belief (the fact!) that bisexuality is for example, a legitimate and very real sexual orientation. Then there are those particular people in my ethnicity who somehow believe that one cannot be Black, masculine, bisexual and an alpha male, all rolled into one spirit, person and form. Well, many of those people have met me and still won’t accept what’s in front of their eyes when I tell them the truth. Knowing how some of my people think and feel the way they do, I make every effort to be among the many Black men like me who work to break through the narrow-minded, uneducated, prejudiced, stereotypical and limited mode of thinking of not just those people in my particular ethnicity but of everyone!
If you are a regular reader of Keepin’ It…REAL! and my other articles blog, Masculine Perspectives, (click title to access) and/or follow me on Facebook, Google+ and Twitter, then you already know that in every article I’ve written and in every status post or comment I make that’s related either to nudism or sexuality or those written specifically expressing my support regarding certain LGBT issues – particularly those concerning bisexuality, you can see there is a clear indicator of my pride in having some involvement – no matter how small, in and with such things.
The Freedom of Nudity – Revisited
A revealing look into my thinking and personal experiences as a practicing proud nudist is plainly laid out in my well-read 2-part blog article from early 2013 simply titled, The Freedom of Nudity. In that article I talk candidly about my love of nudism and my preference for being a nudist. A major work covering personal experiences, the article took me about four months to write then about another two for me to give very careful consideration as to whether I wanted such intimate details about me and my nudist desires published to the world. I felt very passionate about the subject and had so much to share that rather than leave parts out, I split the nearly twelve-page article down into four parts for publishing, then down to three and finally down into the now existing two-part article. I encourage you to read The Freedom of Nudity if you are maturely and genuinely curious in learning and understanding more about my thinking on nudism or if you simply have interests or concerns about practicing nudism yourself either during part of your day or all day long – as you feel comfortable with doing while in the privacy of your home, dorm, hotel room (if travelling) or outside in the privacy of your [privacy fenced] yard.
Being naked gives me a certain sense of psychological, sensual and sexual freedom that is often hard to describe to someone who does not normally enjoy or prefer to be nude when at home, around a lover or committed relationship partner – outside of sexual relations, or with other adult members of the same gender. Such freedom is often hard to explain to people who have puritan beliefs that the human physical form was always meant to be covered or clothed and that exposure of one’s genitals is an anathema to the very Deity – if there be any, who created them. Such freedom is difficult to explain to people who think and/or believe that the naked human body – as an object of sexuality, is suggestive and/or a cause of provocation of sexual desire from someone of the opposite or same gender whenever it is seen or known to be naked. I’m here to say that is not always necessarily the case. After you’ve read The Freedom of Nudity –Part 1 and Part 2, I invite you to click the blog article titles in the list below to learn more about the normal, healthy and fun things that one can enjoy simply by being nude:
Note: Each article written/published in 2013 unless otherwise noted)
Should you are consider becoming what I call a “hardcore nudist” – one who doesn’t have any psychological or emotional hang-ups or apprehensions about personal appearance nor care about what one’s roommates or adult fellow house guests might think or say regarding your choosing to be nude, then I urge you to always remember these words of mine:
True freedom of nudity means your nudism is always about you! Being naked is sensual and sexual but nudity is not about sex. One’s nakedness does not mean or imply that sexual activity will or ever has to occur – especially without your consent. Generally, being nude should always make one feel safe and sexy without necessarily feeling the need to give into satisfying the sexual desires of one’s self or those of a partner – unless of course, you want to.
Pride in Being Black and Bisexual
I could go into some long dissertation about bisexual pride – my pride. Rather than do that, I’d prefer keep it short and to the point. All one has to do read the following statement carefully:
When I look in the mirror I’m both happy and blessed to see a Black, masculine, strong, sexy alpha male looking back at me. That man has the masculine appearance, walk, talk, sound, pheromones and the sexual experience, sensuality and confident swagger expected of an intelligent, positive-thinking, life-experienced, masculine Black man. All of that seems to get better as I get older and wiser. The carefully watchful eyes and listening ears of men and women I know and those I will meet can very safely assume that I am the same man with the same sexual swagger whenever I am with either gender in the bedroom! Fuck yeah!
So there you go, readers: a revisit and consolidated look at my shameless pride in being a practicing nudist and naturist and in my being a Black, masculine, bisexual man. Few realize this about bisexual people but for me, one of the huge enjoyable benefits in being bisexual is that I never have to think, act or pretend to be anyone else but myself in any given sexual or non-sexual environment or situation. Fuck, this is who I am and it all feels so natural! I feel sensuous, sexually and spiritually free; a man with options – gender-wise, guided by the natural attractions, emotions and feelings of his sexual orientation towards women or men, as the case may be. There exists no reason for me to ever feel ashamed or to hide who I am. I’m simply…me; and I’m very proud of the ‘me’ that I am!
Freedom: Living in My Truth
Before I end this article, I present portions of lyrics taken from a favorite song of mine by pop recording artist, George Michael. The song is called “Freedom” and while I’ve never be told otherwise, when I first heard it some twenty-four years ago, I’d always logically assumed that it was Michael’s public “coming out [as gay]” anthem. I still think that way because for me, it describes my desire to tell the world of my bisexual orientation so I could just live in my truth. However, at the time I’d just married a heterosexual woman to whom – for a number of reasons (one of which you’ll see shortly), I had not been fully opened about my sexuality due to my being in the middle of a twenty-year military career. The year 1990 was – for the United States military, a time when telling or admitting to anyone you were gay – let alone bisexual, meant losing security clearances, certain military job specialties where those clearances were required, and getting punishment and dishonorably discharged under the Uniform Code of Military Justice (UCMJ). The UCMJ is the military law under which all U.S. servicemen are subject. Therefore in order to keep my job, continue to support myself and family, finish a career I had already honorably served well for more than ten years and had come to deeply love, I decided to keep my sexual orientation a secret from military authorities as well as from my spouse and family for another decade until I retired from the military. Due to certain other personal issues I would decide to hold on to the revelation of my sexual orientation for nearly another decade. Holding on to such a secret from many of the people I loved during my teen years on though to near middle-age was not particularly desirable yet both private and military life had trained me well in the skills of holding back information without necessarily lying and how to keep secrets, therefore I was able to manage.
I suspect that I may be harshly judged for the decisions I made when certain people read this article. I ask that those particular persons not judge me … only because they do not know and possibly may never understand my full life’s story or the unique circumstances which I was under that gave cause and reasoning for making such decisions. The rest is history; some of which is clearly and openly laid out in this article. In the past several years, I’ve since divorced, raised a fine son and have been determined to live shamelessly in my truth for the rest of my life.
As mentioned, these portions of lyrics taken from the song Freedom sums up my truth nicely. Since its release I’ve sung along to Freedom many times over the years with doubtfully no one ever suspecting that it was my adopted “coming out” anthem. (Thank you, George Michael!) I post the portions of the lyrics here with a hope that it may inspire others to also come to live in their truth – whether that truth be in nudism, naturism or sexual orientation, and to be proud when doing so! (The complete lyrics to the song Freedom is here.)
I won’t let you down
I will not give you up
I won’t let you down
So please don’t give me up
Because I would really, really love to stick around
I think there’s something you should know
I think it’s time I told you so
There’s something deep inside of me
There’s someone else I’ve got to be
Take back your picture in a frame
Take back your singing in the rain
I just hope you understand
Sometimes the clothes do not make the man
All we have to do now
Is take these lies and make them true somehow
All we have to see
Is that I don’t belong to you
And you don’t belong to me
Freedom (freedom) (freedom)
You’ve gotta give for what you take
….today the way I play the game has got to change
Now I’m gonna make myself happy
I’ll hold on to my freedom
May not be what you want from me
Just the way it’s got to be
Lose the face now
I’ve got to live
*Portions of lyrics taken from Freedom, by written and recorded by George Michael from the Listen Without Prejudice album (1990).
© RobFather-X! Productions 2014